Parenting Insights on Cherishing Everyday Joys
Updated: July 2, 2020
Originally Published: April 10, 2016
Rainy days with a newborn can be more manageable than they seem. While being stuck indoors longer than desired is not ideal, any sleep-deprived parent knows that newborns typically spend the majority of their day sleeping—only to become awake and active at night. Being confined at home with a napping baby is definitely more pleasant than being cooped up with a restless toddler eager to expend their energy.
I often witness fellow parents on social media seeking suggestions for indoor activities or expressing frustration over the gloomy weather forecasts. However, my perspective differs slightly. I’ve had my moments of feeling overwhelmed, especially when my son begs to go outside to play, only for me to remind him that it’s freezing and pouring rain. I understand the struggle, yet after emerging from the fog of postpartum depression and anxiety that shadowed the first two years of my son’s life, I now view rainy days as opportunities for gratitude.
Conceiving my son was a significant challenge, unlike my siblings, who seemed to have little trouble. Diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) at 16, motherhood was an aspiration I always held dear, but the path to achieving it would prove to be rocky. Receiving the news in my late twenties that conception would be difficult felt heavy. We anticipated obstacles but were unprepared for the emotional toll it would take on us. Our once-strong relationship faced immense strain, and we found ourselves at a breaking point.
Eventually, we chose to step away from our pursuit of conception. Though my heart ached, my spirit was relieved. I realized that dwelling on unfulfilled dreams would only lead to more heartache. Instead, I prioritized my health and well-being. After experiencing severe side effects from fertility medications, I turned to acupuncture and adopted a vegan lifestyle. This shift allowed our relationship to heal, as we replaced stressful appointments with outdoor activities and even a Caribbean cruise.
Six months later, we found ourselves rejuvenated and unexpectedly pregnant—without any fertility treatments. I spent the initial months in disbelief and anxiety, worried that something would go wrong. Despite a relatively smooth pregnancy, I faced challenges such as hypertension and gestational diabetes, which turned it into a high-stress experience requiring frequent medical check-ups.
When my due date arrived, I felt ready for the journey ahead. However, after many hours of labor, an emergency C-section was necessary. Although fear gripped me, my husband’s presence provided comfort, and hearing our son’s first cry filled my heart with indescribable joy. All the struggles and disappointments faded away in that moment.
On those gloomy days, when time slows, and motherhood can feel overwhelming, I take a moment to appreciate my son—his tousled blonde hair and bright blue eyes. Reflecting on our journey to parenthood fills me with gratitude. I cherish not only the joys of motherhood but also the resilience it took to get here. I embrace the sunshine that breaks through the rain.
For those on a similar journey, consider exploring resources like this one for guidance on family planning. If you are interested in learning more about home insemination, Make A Mom offers valuable insights. Additionally, Hopkins Medicine is an excellent resource for those seeking information on fertility options.
Summary
Embracing the challenges and joys of motherhood can transform seemingly mundane moments into cherished memories. After a long and difficult journey to parenthood, it’s essential to recognize the beauty in everyday experiences, especially during rainy days. Cultivating gratitude helps us savor the present and appreciate the unique journey of raising children.