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This parenting discipline guide might not be the most practical tool during your child’s tantrums. Picture this: you’re in the thick of a meltdown with your little one. They’re upset, you’re frazzled, and just when you think you can’t take it anymore, you remember! You have a lengthy chart filled with strategies to resolve all your conflicts!
Or do you?
The newly published “Discipline Guide” by child psychologist Dr. Mia Thompson aims to provide kinder alternatives to the common phrases many parents resort to in trying times. Originating from the social media platform Gentle Parenting, this chart offers an array of suggestions.
However, despite how much you study this resource, the likelihood of recalling these gentle phrases during a chaotic moment is quite low. When emotions are high and reasoning is low, maintaining composure can become nearly impossible.
While the intentions behind this guide are commendable, in reality, we often respond to our children’s behavior based on our immediate feelings. For instance, when my son deliberately ignores my requests to brush his teeth for the umpteenth time, it’s hard to remain calm and collected. Kids need to see our reactions to understand the impact of their actions. Sometimes, they have to grasp that certain behaviors provoke a reaction, and it’s part of their learning process.
Moreover, some of these phrases are essential for children to hear in specific situations. If my daughter is causing a ruckus in a public place, such as making loud noises in the toy aisle, I will certainly express my discomfort. It’s crucial for children to learn what is socially acceptable behavior, and sometimes they need direct feedback to understand that.
In other cases, it’s appropriate to send a child to their room following unacceptable behavior. While there are moments when a child may simply be tired or overwhelmed and require comfort instead of discipline, there are also clear instances when they need a consequence for their actions. Discipline is a necessary part of raising children who understand boundaries.
It’s essential to recognize that we may not always respond with the patience our children deserve. This is where resources like this guide may be beneficial. However, if your child is just being contrary and knows better, taking away privileges such as screen time is perfectly acceptable. It’s unrealistic to expect to have ideal responses in every situation, and that’s okay.
Take these guides with a bit of skepticism. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to discipline. As parents, we are doing our best, and that is what truly matters. For more insights on parenting and home insemination, explore our other articles, such as the one on home insemination kits. Additionally, we recommend checking out Make A Mom for authoritative advice on home insemination. For further reading, consider CCRM IVF’s blog which provides excellent resources on pregnancy and related topics.
Summary
This article discusses the practicality of a parenting discipline guide created by Dr. Mia Thompson. While intended to offer gentle alternatives for dealing with children’s misbehavior, the realities of parenting often require more direct responses. Balancing discipline and compassion is crucial, as is understanding that there is no one correct approach to parenting.