Updated: Aug. 3, 2023
Originally Published: Feb. 24, 2023
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In my early twenties, I was in the best physical condition I had ever experienced. Weighing around 120 pounds, I dedicated an hour each day to yoga. For the first time, I could see my abs clearly. I was toned, flexible, and full of energy. The strength I felt was empowering, but I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge the vanity that fueled my motivation. I finally possessed the body I had always dreamed of.
However, that peak state of fitness was short-lived. As life got busier, my yoga practice dwindled, and my eating habits deteriorated. Gradually, the pounds crept back on, and my once-fit physique softened. Then I became a mother, and as you might expect, the journey continued to evolve.
Now, I find myself about 15 years and 15 pounds removed from what I once considered my prime. Having two children and spending nearly a decade primarily at home with them has shifted my perspective. While I sometimes lament the extra weight and the limited time for exercise, I’ve also gained valuable insights along the way. I’ve come to realize that the ideal body I had in my twenties is unrealistic as I approach 40. More importantly, I understand that there are far more significant things in life than a perfectly sculpted physique.
Even if I could return to my previous fitness level and maintain a strict diet, my body would never replicate that same sleek appearance. Changes in metabolism and the natural aging process, along with genetic predispositions—my family is known for their curves—have taught me to embrace my body as it is.
Beyond physical changes, my mindset has transformed. I recognize that eating well and exercising enhance my well-being. When I indulge or neglect my fitness routine, I don’t feel as good. It’s no longer about achieving a perfect body; it’s about nurturing a healthy one.
I aspire to chase after my children (and someday my grandchildren!) without gasping for breath. I want to climb on a stool to change lightbulbs without risking injury. My aim is to wake up each morning feeling energized, ready to fill my days with beloved activities and cherished company. I want the stamina to enjoy the blessings in my life and the resilience to navigate the inevitable challenges ahead.
For however many years I’m fortunate to spend on this planet, I intend to feel good. I understand that my body will face changes beyond my control. Just the other day, I sneezed and experienced a minor mishap—yes, I’m adding kegels to my routine. Menopause looms on the horizon, bringing with it potential health concerns.
So, I unfurl my yoga mat several times a week and take to the pavement for a few miles whenever I can. I strive to eat nutritiously most of the time (though I definitely indulge in chocolate and salty snacks as well). I engage in these practices not only to maintain a healthy weight but also because this is the only body I will have throughout my lifetime, and I want it to serve me well. My goal is to thrive, not just survive, and to feel as good as I can for as long as I’m here.
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Summary:
The journey to self-acceptance and understanding of one’s body changes with age, motherhood, and life experiences. While striving for health and fitness remains important, the focus shifts from vanity to overall well-being. Embracing the unique qualities of one’s body and prioritizing what truly matters—energy, strength, and the ability to enjoy life—becomes the goal.