In attempting to share my thoughts on a sensitive subject, I find myself grappling with the best way to begin. But I’ll get straight to the point: Yesterday, I demonstrated to my 7½-year-old daughter how to use a tampon.
You might be surprised or even disapproving of my decision. Allow me to clarify my reasoning. Growing up, I never saw my mother in a state of undress. I missed out on understanding what a woman’s body looks like in its natural form—the physical changes that accompany motherhood and the beauty of the female form in all its variations. Instead, my understanding was shaped by idealized portrayals of women in media—images that are often unrealistic and unattainable.
To counter this, I strive to create an environment where my children, particularly my daughter, see my body as it is. I want her to understand that the dimples on my thighs, the curves of my hips, and the softness of my skin are all part of being a woman. This is the image I hope will serve as her standard of beauty, allowing her to embrace her own body as she grows.
While we aren’t nudists, I do believe in normalizing the human body. If my daughter is brushing her teeth while I step out of the shower or if she walks in while I’m getting dressed, these moments become opportunities for her to see that bodies come in all shapes and sizes.
Just recently, when she saw me changing my tampon, she asked, “Mama, what are you doing?” She is aware of why this is a part of life, having previously asked about the changes in her own body. Earlier that week, in a moment of playful insight, she had even suggested I buy tampons while grocery shopping—a reminder that she is perceptive and aware.
When she requested to learn more about tampons, I paused, contemplating whether I should wait. However, I recalled my own experience of learning in secrecy, feeling embarrassed and alone. I had to figure it all out by myself after my mother deemed me too young to learn. I remember the discomfort and confusion I felt during those early attempts, and I wanted to spare my daughter from that.
So, I took the opportunity to explain the process to her. I showed her how to open the packaging, prepare the applicator, and use it comfortably. This demystification of menstruation is crucial; it is a normal biological function that we should all discuss openly.
By teaching her now, I help her to understand that her body and its functions are natural and should not be shrouded in mystery or shame. This is an important lesson for her, taught by me, her mother—the most significant female role model in her life.
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In summary, sharing knowledge about menstruation and body awareness with my daughter promotes a healthy understanding of womanhood—one that encourages her to embrace her own unique beauty as she matures.