Updated: Aug. 21, 2015
Originally Published: July 28, 2010
I’m a proud mom of three wonderful boys, and just to clarify, I’m not attempting to have a girl. It’s not that I wouldn’t welcome a daughter; it’s simply that my family feels complete as it is. Having three kids in under 3.5 years has been quite the adventure, and I’m exhausted by the constant questioning about whether we’re trying for a girl. It’s as if my family lacks something essential just because I’m the only female in the house.
When my partner and I discussed starting a family, we never focused on the sex of our children. Our conversations revolved around the ideal number of kids, which initially was four but eventually settled on three, the perfect fit for us. During my pregnancies with my second and third sons, there was never a mention of stopping if we had a girl or continuing if it was another boy. That thought process felt entirely wrong to me—looking down at a new baby and thinking, “Oh no, another boy. Let’s try again.”
Admittedly, I had to adjust to the reality of not having a daughter since I once assumed I’d have one. However, that doesn’t mean I’m disappointed with my boys. If I had a girl alongside my sons, I would absolutely love her, but I’ve never looked at any of my boys and wished they were girls. Now that I’ve made the decision to stop expanding our family, I don’t even think about the possibility of another child beyond my incredible boys.
When people suggest we should try for a girl, it frustrates me. It implies that I can’t have a complete family without one of each gender. Can you imagine if we were considering another baby? The pregnancy hormones would probably make me snap at anyone who glanced at my boys and then at my belly, saying, “I hope it’s a girl.” I’ve heard comments like that before, and sometimes I wanted to retort, “If it’s not, do you want him? I’m only having a third to try for a girl,” just to highlight how absurd those remarks can be.
Honestly, I don’t feel like I’m missing out by “only” having boys. I don’t believe a little girl is necessary for a complete family. My boys are remarkable, albeit a bit wild at times, but that’s part of their charm. I love being a boy mom, and my family is truly complete.
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Summary:
In this post, Jamie shares her journey as a mother of three boys and expresses her contentment with her family dynamic. She addresses societal pressures regarding gender preferences in children and emphasizes that her family feels whole without having a girl. Jamie celebrates the joys of motherhood while dismissing the notion that a daughter is necessary for completeness.
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