Motherhood is a transformative experience, yet it often comes with challenges that can leave a woman feeling as though her basic rights are compromised. The shift in priorities—where personal needs are frequently overshadowed by those of children—can be overwhelming. To address these concerns, I propose a Mothers’ Bill of Rights, outlining 16 essential entitlements that every mother deserves. Below are these foundational rights that should be acknowledged after the arrival of a child.
- The right to use the restroom in peace, allowing for personal hygiene without interruptions from children or distractions.
- The right to enjoy a meal from a plate that is untouched by others, ensuring it is served hot when intended.
- The right to remain seated during meals without excessive interruptions for additional milk, condiments, or managing a child’s mess.
- The right to return to work post-leave without facing significant setbacks in one’s career trajectory.
- For six weeks post-delivery, the right to have meals brought to us for every meal and snack, allowing for rest and recovery.
- An allotted timeframe each morning for personal grooming—approximately 15 uninterrupted minutes—away from children’s antics.
- The right to shield ourselves from unsolicited advice from strangers during outings with children, such as comments about clothing or behavior.
- The right to opt-out of cooking and cleaning without guilt or societal pressure.
- A partner who shares the intuitive awareness of household responsibilities, minimizing the need for reminders about chores and tasks.
- Time alone in the home each week for personal activities such as tidying up or enjoying a good book, ideally four hours, though two would suffice.
- Designated vacation days to be enjoyed with or without children, recognizing the need for personal time.
- A regular date night, at least once a week or preferably twice a month, to maintain relational connections.
- The right to attend medical appointments independently, without postponing due to a hectic family schedule.
- The right to occasionally use disposable plates to ease the burden of dishwashing and cleaning.
- The right to receive care and support when unwell, without the added stress of everyday responsibilities.
- Finally, the right to have sufficient time and assistance, whether from partners or family, to experience life as more than a series of rushed tasks—ultimately allowing for the enjoyment of motherhood.
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In summary, this proposed Bill of Rights aims to restore balance, promote well-being, and affirm the importance of mothers’ needs in the journey of parenting.