What does 38 years of friendship truly look like? It’s effortless, genuine, and authentic.
Three decades ago, our mothers became godmothers to their newborn daughters, sealing a bond that would evolve over the years. Fast forward, and we stood side by side as each other’s maids of honor, only to become godmothers to one another’s children years later. The countless moments we’ve shared throughout those years are far too rich to be captured fully in words.
When we were younger, I admired her adventurous spirit, her boldness, her unique knack for bringing joy to everyone around her, and her immense capacity for love. Today, I still hold that admiration, but I have come to appreciate how she has maintained those qualities as she navigated adulthood. She has seamlessly woven her zest for life into her marriage, her parenting, and her career.
Over the years, our friendship has transformed in many ways. Although we haven’t lived in the same city for nearly twenty years, that distance has only strengthened our connection. After all, physical separation is merely mileage for vehicles, not a barrier for the heart. While we may take for granted the individuals we encounter daily, the limited visits we share—just three times a year—make every moment we spend together invaluable.
We might not communicate daily, yet there is nothing I wouldn’t share with her. Our conversations have matured from discussions about school and crushes to topics like home repairs and child-rearing. Regardless of the changes, we continue to speak the same language. The trials of adolescence, the heartaches of lost relationships, the struggles of adult life, and the joys of family—these experiences forge a bond deeper than mere friendship. We have grown together through both the trials and triumphs of life.
Here we are now: mothers with unkempt hair and remnants of meals on our clothes. And, let’s be honest, some of that food isn’t solely from our children! There’s no need for pretense when she visits; we embrace the reality of our lives, imperfections and all. Our families might not be picture-perfect, but the love we share is undeniable.
Our children have formed a bond so strong they believe they are siblings. We see no reason to correct them; the family we create often holds more significance than biological ties.
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In summary, the essence of a long-lasting friendship lies in shared experiences, unwavering support, and the ability to navigate life’s ups and downs together. It transcends time and distance, creating a bond that feels like family.