As a pediatrician, I understand the challenges that come with potty training. In fact, I recently came across a humorous children’s book titled Percy the Poop, which aims to personify the experience of using the toilet. The approach is to help children grasp the concept of where their bodily functions should go.
This month marks a year since my patient, a resilient toddler, began her potty training journey. Yes, a whole year. It has been a trying 365 days, and the finish line still seems distant.
Potty training often begins unexpectedly. For this particular child, it was a spontaneous decision made one weekend when she expressed a desire to use the potty. We were thrilled; her initial success with urination made us believe we were in for an easy ride. However, that optimism quickly faded when we encountered the difficulty surrounding bowel movements.
Every child’s experience with potty training is unique, and some may face more hurdles than others. In this case, the primary challenge was transitioning to pooping in the toilet. I had never anticipated that such a basic biological function would become a source of frustration.
As a professional, I have witnessed various strategies employed by parents to encourage their children in this phase. Here are some techniques that have been attempted:
- Offering small or large rewards for successful attempts.
- Utilizing a toddler potty chair and even positioning it in different areas of the home.
- Introducing fun potty seat inserts for adult toilets, often adorned with beloved characters.
- Establishing a “potty money” system where children earn coins for each successful attempt. Unfortunately, the jar remained nearly empty.
- Creating a sticker chart with appealing visuals.
- Allowing viewing of videos or movies during bathroom time.
- Offering special treats or foods as an incentive.
- Reading engaging, poop-related children’s literature.
- Allowing the child to witness the transition of poop from underwear to the toilet.
- Encouraging participation in cleaning up accidents.
- Introducing the concept of going without underwear at home.
- Emphasizing the fun of decorating the poop once it is in the toilet.
Despite these efforts, the child remained resistant, demonstrating a stubbornness that is not uncommon at this age. She clearly understood where she was supposed to go but consistently chose not to. Unlike many children who may have fears associated with the toilet, this child displayed none.
Her unpredictable schedule made it challenging to determine when she needed to use the toilet, leading to a heightened sense of vigilance on the part of her caregivers. This led to an exhausting routine of monitoring her closely for any signs that she might need to go.
Well-meaning people often advise, “Just relax; she will eventually figure it out.” However, such comments can feel dismissive to those who have navigated challenging potty training experiences. While I recognize the eventual success of all children in this area, the journey can be fraught with frustration and discomfort.
When faced with the task of cleaning soiled underwear for what feels like the hundredth time, I remind myself that eventually, this child will master the process, and I won’t be dealing with these messes. It is also important to prepare for the possibility of future children requiring the same level of attention during potty training.
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Summary
Potty training can be a challenging and often frustrating experience for both children and parents. Despite various techniques and approaches to encourage proper toilet use, some children may resist the transition, particularly when it comes to bowel movements. Understanding each child’s unique needs and maintaining patience can ultimately lead to success in this developmental milestone.