I recently spoke with a colleague, Sarah, about the struggles of managing work and family life. During our conversation, she revealed, “I endured significant pain for months simply because it was more convenient than making a doctor’s appointment.” This resonated with me. I had just returned from my first annual checkup in three years, during which my doctor inquired about various screenings I had neglected. “MRI for your back? No. Pap smear? No. Dental cleaning? Ha!” I chuckled, thinking about the impossible juggling act of work and parenting. I left with a pile of referrals and prescriptions for tests, which remain untouched in my bag.
The demands of parenthood, particularly for those of us with demanding jobs, can severely affect our health. If you’re like me, you might find yourself frequently taking your children to the doctor for fevers, rashes, or the occasional stomach bug. When you leave work to tend to a sick child, it becomes increasingly challenging to carve out time for your own health issues later on.
Sleep, too, often becomes a luxury. A friend of mine, a single parent and freelancer, battled a persistent cough for months. When I asked about her sleep schedule, she simply shrugged. Between her late-night work obligations and early mornings with her kids, she developed walking pneumonia due to her inability to seek medical attention and rest.
Exercise is another casualty in this hectic lifestyle. I genuinely enjoy physical activity and would gladly incorporate it into my day if only there were an extra hour. My schedule is designed to allow for late afternoons with my children, but that leads to early bedtimes for me and minimal time for yoga. Another working mother I know has given up altogether, stating, “I wake up at six with the kids and work until eleven at night. There’s no time for exercise; my job comes first.”
Americans typically work an average of 47 hours each week, compared to just under 35 hours in many other countries. We also spend about 50 minutes daily commuting, which can be even longer in urban areas due to traffic. When you factor in childcare, household responsibilities, and the administrative tasks of life—like filling out camp forms and shopping for school supplies—there’s hardly any time left for self-care.
The stress associated with balancing work and parenting can have particularly dire consequences for women. Research indicates that women experiencing high job stress face a 40 percent higher risk for cardiovascular disease compared to those with lower stress levels.
This issue isn’t solely confined to working parents; stay-at-home parents also grapple with health challenges. When I was a stay-at-home mom, I found it just as difficult to fit in exercise or doctor appointments, as childcare responsibilities loomed large.
The core of this problem lies in our broader societal culture. We prioritize commuting over biking, face early school drop-offs and late extracurricular activities, and often resort to expensive convenience foods instead of preparing fresh meals. In a fragile economy, many feel compelled to work grueling hours to maintain job security.
As the school year approaches, I find myself setting new resolutions. This year, I aim to integrate a few minutes of yoga into my daily routine, cook more meals from scratch, and finally make that appointment for the MRI once I locate the prescription. If achieving these goals means reducing my workload or allowing my children extra screen time, then so be it. While I appreciate the desire to have it all, I equally value my health.
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Summary
The demands of work and parenting often lead to neglecting personal health. Many parents struggle to find time for medical appointments, sleep, and exercise due to their busy schedules. This issue affects both working and stay-at-home parents, highlighting a cultural problem that prioritizes work over well-being. As we strive for balance, it’s important to prioritize our health and make time for self-care.