As parents prepare their children for college, conversations often focus on young women and the pressing issue of sexual assault on campuses. Parents feel a duty to educate their daughters about self-protection and how to respond to potential threats. However, it’s crucial to recognize that young men also face significant sexual vulnerabilities during this time. Dr. Samuel Greene, a physician specializing in adolescent health, highlights that male-on-male sexual assault is a serious, yet often overlooked, issue in higher education settings.
In a recent article for a well-respected publication, Dr. Greene points out that while female victims of sexual violence receive considerable attention, male victims are frequently left in the shadows. A report from the National Crime Victimization Survey in 2013 revealed that 38 percent of reported sexual assault incidents involved male victims, with women being responsible for 46 percent of these assaults. The stigma surrounding male sexual assault leads to underreporting as many men feel pressured by societal norms that dictate “real men” should always be interested in sex.
Dr. Greene notes that concerningly, 3 to 4 percent of the young men he encounters reveal that their first sexual experiences occurred before the age of 10. Although these incidents are deeply troubling, many of these individuals do not classify them as traumatic. Additionally, he describes older boys and young men who have encountered unwanted sexual advances, such as waking in their dorms to find a female peer attempting to engage in sexual acts.
This cultural narrative fosters confusion among young men, who are socialized to believe that any hesitation or refusal equates to weakness or is viewed negatively as “not masculine.” This mentality can deter them from reporting sexual assaults, further perpetuating the silence around this critical issue.
As a mother of sons, I have always felt a responsibility to teach them about personal boundaries, emphasizing that no one is allowed to touch them inappropriately. Conversations have primarily revolved around the safety of girls, but it is essential to also address the importance of understanding their own boundaries and how to assert them. They must be equipped with the knowledge to navigate situations involving unwanted advances and the steps to take if they experience sexual assault.
While the prevalence of sexual assault among boys may not match that of girls, research is still lacking to fully grasp the extent of the issue. It is imperative to educate young men about their rights and responsibilities regarding their bodies and sexual experiences. The outdated notion that “real men” are always eager for sex must be dismantled.
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In summary, it is vital to recognize that young men are not immune to sexual violence and must be educated about their rights and boundaries. As we continue to address these issues, we must ensure that conversations about consent, respect, and personal autonomy include young men just as much as they do young women.