As I navigate the threshold of my 40s, I find myself reflecting on the wisdom I’ve gained—not solely from age, but remarkably from my 3-year-old son, who views the world with unfiltered curiosity. These lessons have illuminated my journey, and I’m eager to share them.
1. Daily Hair Washing Is Overrated
For years, I’ve been frustrated that my hair looks best right before I shower. It never crossed my mind to embrace the natural look instead. My son often goes days without a wash, and his hair remains effortlessly stylish. This revelation not only saves time but also reduces my shampoo usage.
2. Books Can Withstand a Little Water
A few drops of bath water on the pages of a book do not spell disaster. In fact, those little imperfections add character. Each wrinkle tells a story, much like the beloved Skin Horse from “The Velveteen Rabbit.” Of course, we still debate the merits of dust jackets—I’m a fan, while my son prefers to let them go free, resulting in endless tug-of-war sessions over his picture books.
3. Coloring Boldly Yields Rich Results
I’ve learned that applying pressure when coloring leads to vibrant creations. In my youth, I hesitated to use my lipstick, fearing I would ruin its pristine state. Meanwhile, my son dives headfirst into his artistic endeavors, reminding me that the most meaningful experiences come from embracing spontaneity—whether it’s Crayola or lipstick, it’s the bold actions that leave a mark.
4. Confidence Defines Style
Fashion magazines have long promoted the notion that style hinges on adhering to specific guidelines. Yet, my son demonstrates that true style comes from confidence and self-acceptance. He mismatches outfits and joyfully expresses himself without a hint of insecurity. This lesson has inspired me to embrace my uniqueness rather than compare myself to others.
5. The Value of Physical Affection
In the busyness of my 20s, I neglected the simple joy of cuddling. Sharing intimate moments with my son has rekindled my appreciation for closeness. Whether it’s snuggling with him post-nap or hugging friends, these moments remind me of the warmth of human connection and the fleeting nature of time.
6. Letter Writing Enhances Patience and Cognitive Skills
As my son learns to write, I’ve discovered the mental fortitude that accompanies patiently guiding him through letter formation. This process has reignited my passion for handwritten correspondence, reminding me of the joy in crafting thoughtful messages. The slow, deliberate nature of letter writing is a welcome antidote to our fast-paced lives, allowing us to engage deeply with our thoughts and relationships. For those interested in exploring the benefits of home insemination, you can also check out this excellent resource on treating infertility.
In summary, my child is an unexpected teacher, imparting valuable lessons that have reshaped my perspective as I approach a new decade of life. These insights about self-acceptance, boldness, and the importance of connection are things I intend to carry with me as I continue to grow.