By: Jamie Carter
Updated: Aug. 27, 2020
Originally Published: June 5, 2015
Let’s talk about something that can truly spice up a relationship: taking charge of household responsibilities. Imagine a scene where your partner confidently states, “I’ve got this under control.” That’s right! We often find ourselves managing a multitude of tasks—children, meals, homework, work commitments, and more. When a crisis arises, it typically lands squarely on our shoulders.
We love our hectic lives, filled with hugs and family moments, but let’s be honest: it would be wonderful if our partners took on a few more responsibilities. This is not directed at those extraordinary couples who manage to balance everything perfectly—if that’s you, fantastic! But for those who might recognize a pattern where one partner does the heavy lifting while the other skates by, here are six ways your spouse might be dodging housework, along with suggestions for how to encourage a more even distribution of responsibilities.
1. The Oblivious Spouse
This classic move involves ignoring tasks that need attention. Whether it’s laundry piling up or lightbulbs needing replacement, some partners simply hope we’ll jump in to handle it. When confronted, they might respond with an innocent, “What? I didn’t notice.”
2. The Compliment Dodger
Some partners cleverly avoid chores by claiming, “You do that so much better than I do.” While flattery can be nice, it’s frustrating when it becomes an excuse to evade responsibilities. Just because someone can bake a cake beautifully doesn’t mean they should be the only one doing it.
3. The Self-Congratulator
These partners often make a big deal out of minor contributions. For instance, one might give the kids a bath once in a while and act like it’s a monumental achievement. While recognition is important, regular contributions should not need a parade.
4. The Procrastinator
This partner agrees that a task should be done but keeps putting it off with statements like, “I’ll take care of it later.” This can lead to a situation where the other partner ends up completing those tasks out of necessity.
5. The Task Delegator
Some individuals manage outdoor chores but might delegate indoor tasks to their partners, even if they previously handled those tasks themselves before marriage. If you find yourself running errands or managing holiday planning while your partner relaxes, it may feel like you’re an assistant rather than an equal partner.
6. The Dismissive Partner
This level of avoidance involves outright denying that a task is necessary. When discussing potential issues, they might shrug it off, claiming, “It’ll sort itself out.” While this laid-back approach can be refreshing, it can lead to bigger problems down the line.
If you recognize your partner in one of these categories, it’s crucial to communicate your needs. Expressing that you appreciate their contributions but also find it attractive when they take initiative can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling partnership.
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Summary
In summary, household chores can often become a point of contention in relationships. By identifying the ways partners might evade responsibilities, couples can foster better communication and a more equitable distribution of tasks, ultimately enhancing their relationship and intimacy.