If I received a dollar every time I heard the phrase “I don’t want them labeled,” I could easily pay off my mortgage, yours, and perhaps even treat myself to a new vehicle. It’s time for a candid discussion.
This sentiment is common, and I’ve even echoed it myself. However, the reality is that this issue isn’t about you—it never has been. From the moment the doctor announced, “It’s a boy!” or “It’s a girl!”, the focus shifted to your child. While I understand the desire to avoid labels, burying your head in the sand isn’t beneficial for your child. Do you believe that ignoring a label will spare them harm? In truth, your child already carries a label—the “quirky one,” the “troublemaker,” or the “what’s up with that kid?” Why not embrace an accurate label that can lead to the right support for their success?
Labels can feel like a necessary evil. I understand the practicality involved may seem as engaging as watching paint dry, but it is crucial. Do you really think an insurance company will fund vague, unspecified assistance? Personally, I struggle to get my insurance to cover even minimal speech therapy, despite my child being diagnosed with autism. And don’t forget the annual conversation with the insurance rep: “Yes, I will continue to take him to speech therapy and pay out of pocket. He is still very much autistic! He didn’t just recover from his severe communication challenges because we hit a limit. Surprising, right?”
When it comes to education, having a label is essential. No one casually hands out Individualized Education Programs (IEPs) without justification. If you want your child to receive the free and appropriate education that the law guarantees, you need that label. Accepting a label isn’t about stigmatizing your child; it’s about ensuring they receive the tailored educational support they need.
I understand the resistance. I experienced denial for years, unwilling to confront what was evident. Yet, as I began to accept the reality, I found a sense of familiarity. It’s not about improvement; it’s about discovering your child’s unique rhythm. I started navigating the journey of autism with my child, learning to appreciate their world—complete with its quirks, like an obsession with trains. I started to speak their language while sharing mine, ultimately seeing beyond the label.
In essence, I moved beyond my own fears. Every parent ultimately desires the best for their child. Whether it be autism or another condition, let’s avoid adding parental resentment to the mix. For additional insights on pregnancy and home insemination, check out this excellent resource on pregnancy and for home insemination solutions, visit Cryobaby.
In conclusion, acknowledging and accepting labels can be a crucial step in securing the necessary support and resources for your child’s development and well-being. It is essential to prioritize their needs over any discomfort with labeling.