10 Films That Influenced My Childhood—and Will Influence My Daughter’s Journey Too

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10 Films That Influenced My Childhood—and Will Influence My Daughter’s Journey Too
by Alex Turner
Updated: November 9, 2020
Originally Published: April 16, 2015

Growing up in the 1980s, I developed a deep love for movies—something that remains with me today. My 9-year-old daughter enjoys them too, albeit not as passionately. When we settle in for a film night, we make it special by popping popcorn, rummaging through my hidden candy stash, and enjoying some fizzy soda. (Clearly, I’m aiming for the Father of the Year award here.) We dim the lights and hit play. While we may not say much during the film, these moments are precious bonding experiences. I often find myself giving her a foot rub, and yes, even that counts as quality time. Stealing glances at her during the movie to catch her emotional reactions is one of my favorite things.

In the first nine years of her life, I rarely got to choose the movie. My suggestions often fell on deaf ears. However, in the last six months, things have shifted slightly. After letting her watch Pitch Perfect on cable, she began to take my recommendations more seriously. Even though I may have pushed the boundaries of age-appropriateness with that choice, she loved it, and we are excited to see Pitch Perfect 2 together when it releases in theaters this May. That’s our little secret.

For those of us who identify as part of Generation X, certain films have left an indelible mark on our lives and have become part of our very essence. Many of us can still quote our favorites. Now, I wish to share these beloved films with my daughter, despite the risk of disappointment. You know that feeling when you adore a movie and want someone else to experience that joy, only for them to respond with a lukewarm, “It was okay”?

So, I’ve compiled a list of ten films I look forward to sharing with her.

Movies to Enjoy Today

1. Free Willy (1993): Discover friendship in unexpected places.
   I agreed to watch this only if my friend Rachel promised to keep it a secret. I thought I needed to protect my masculinity, but I ended up loving it. Who wouldn’t? A troubled boy and a killer whale form a bond, culminating in a heartwarming rescue. My daughter is an animal lover, and I anticipate a few tears during the finale.
2. The Goonies (1985): Embrace your dreams.
   It’s hard to believe this summer marks 30 years since its release. This adventurous tale of a group of kids seeking treasure is a quintessential popcorn flick. Now, I have a craving for a Baby Ruth bar.
3. E.T. (1982): The feeling of homesickness.
   I remember crying during my first viewings. The moment that little heart stops beating is gut-wrenching. This film follows a lonely boy and his siblings as they help a stranded alien find his way home. It reinforces the lesson that, like Dorothy said, there’s no place like home.
4. Big (1988): The perils of growing up too quickly.
   What child hasn’t wished to grow up faster? This film captures that fantasy perfectly. Tom Hanks’s character teaches us that adulthood isn’t as glamorous as it seems.

Movies to Watch in a Few Years

5. Stand By Me (1986): It’s about the journey, not the destination.
   This poignant coming-of-age film adapted from Stephen King’s novella reflects the trials of growing up.
6. The Outsiders (1983): Challenging stereotypes.
   This film dives deeper than mere class differences, showing the humanity behind characters often viewed as villains. “Stay gold, Pony Boy, stay gold.”
7. The Breakfast Club (1985): Perception versus reality.
   This classic speaks volumes, and I anticipate my daughter will see reflections of herself in each character, which is ultimately the film’s essence.

Movies to Watch a Few Years Later

8. Heathers (1988): The pitfalls of popularity.
   My introduction to indie films, this quirky movie illustrates the insecurities we all face in a humorous manner.
9. Fast Times at Ridgemont High (1982): Early experiences and consequences.
   Despite reconsidering this film due to its mature themes, it’s too iconic to ignore. My plan? I’ll step out during the more explicit scenes to keep things age-appropriate.
10. The Silence of the Lambs (1991): A gripping psychological thriller.
    Some may question my parenting choices regarding this film, but it’s an exceptional piece of cinema that will be appropriate for her in due time. It’s a powerful reminder to be cautious about trusting strangers.

Honorable Mentions: The Karate Kid, Coming to America, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Top Gun, Gremlins, Poltergeist, A Nightmare on Elm Street, Sixteen Candles, Raising Arizona, Aliens, Ghostbusters, Back to the Future, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, The Shining, Bill & Ted’s Excellent Adventure.

And just for the record, I’ve never seen Dirty Dancing.

In summary, these films not only shaped my upbringing but also have the potential to influence my daughter’s experiences. They provide insights into friendship, growth, and the complexities of life. For further resources on parenting and family planning, consider exploring this article on home insemination and this guide on fertility. For those interested in the science of conception, this Wikipedia page is an excellent resource.