This post is part of our “Tween Tech” series, where we delve into the social media platforms that our children frequently use. Be sure to check out our previous articles on Jott, Snapchat, Instagram, Vine, and Clash of Clans.
Overview:
Launched in 2004 as a social tool for Harvard students, Facebook has grown into the world’s largest social networking site, boasting 1.49 billion users as of June 2015.
Why Teens and Tweens Are Drawn to It:
Kids often become aware of Facebook long before they reach the age to create their own accounts. They’ve seen us share their milestones and moments online, making Facebook a familiar space. Many parents feel at ease with Facebook, which is why it frequently becomes the first social media platform they allow their children to join. In fact, two-thirds of kids who use only one social network are on Facebook. While critics claim Facebook is losing traction among younger users, the statistics tell another story. Although tweens may explore other social platforms, Facebook remains their primary choice. The appeal of Facebook grows even stronger as more of their peers join.
The Significance of Facebook:
Facebook serves as a “gateway” into the expansive world of social media. It’s often where tweens first experience social networking, and it provides a relatively safe environment for them to develop healthy online habits that they can carry forward to other platforms.
User Statistics:
According to recent data from the Pew Research Center, a staggering 71 percent of children aged 13 to 17 are active on Facebook. Since the platform requires users to be at least 13 to sign up (or to falsify their ages), there’s no accurate data on younger children who may also be on the site.
How Kids Engage with It:
From my conversations with tweens and teens, their use of Facebook mirrors that of their parents: sharing photos, posting memes, staying connected with friends, and yes, watching an endless stream of cat videos.
Tips for Parents to Monitor Their Child’s Activity:
The most effective way to keep an eye on your child’s Facebook interactions is to have your own account and friend them. However, this isn’t foolproof—tech-savvy tweens can easily hide their online activity. Before you send that friend request, have a candid discussion with your child about your online interactions. Set clear guidelines, such as wishing them a happy birthday publicly but avoiding comments on every conversation they have with friends. If you have concerns about a post, discuss it privately instead of airing it on their feed.
A Word of Caution:
You may find your tween’s posts to be a bit cringe-worthy (and they might feel the same about yours). Thankfully, you have the option to “unfollow” their updates while still being able to check their profile when you choose.
Why Parents Can Breathe a Little Easier:
Compared to apps like Snapchat and Yik Yak, Facebook presents fewer risks for tweens and is generally easier for parents to oversee. Most parents are familiar with Facebook and its features, making it simpler to provide guidance as their children begin using the platform. Facebook also includes various tools to help kids manage their visibility, such as friend requests and privacy settings. It’s crucial to go through these settings together to ensure they’re aware of how they work and can make informed choices about their online presence.
Reasons for Concern:
Parents shouldn’t assume that being friends on Facebook means they see everything. Kids can easily control who sees their posts, and direct messages or private groups offer spaces for conversations away from parental eyes. The only way to truly monitor these interactions is to directly check your child’s account. Private groups will appear on the right side of the screen, and you can access messages through the chat icon at the top of the page, but keep in mind these can be deleted. A determined child might even create a separate secret profile unbeknownst to you. The best solution is open dialogue about online expectations.
Common issues that tweens face on Facebook echo the challenges their parents have likely encountered: hurtful comments, feeling excluded from social events, or becoming overly focused on the validation of likes and friend counts. Use your own experiences to guide your tween through the complexities of social media.
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Summary:
Facebook remains a dominant social media platform among tweens and teens, providing both opportunities for connection and challenges for parents. By fostering open communication and setting clear guidelines, parents can help their children navigate this social landscape effectively.
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