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“Would Ava like to come over for a playdate?” the mother asked.
“Sure, that sounds fun,” I replied.
“Make sure she brings her swimsuit,” she added.
“Wait, what? A swimsuit?” I thought. Ava was only 7, and the idea of her swimming at someone else’s house without my supervision was unsettling. I barely knew this woman. Sure, she was friendly at pick-up time, but familiarity didn’t equate to trust. All I knew was that she was well-dressed, attractive, and often distracted by her smartphone. A wave of anxiety washed over me. Was this instinct or just parental apprehension? It felt off. My daughter had only been swimming for two years, and she hadn’t been in the pool since last summer. Unsure of how to handle the situation, we found ourselves en route to her friend’s home before I could fully process my feelings.
Maybe I should hide in the bushes, I mused. But as we pulled into the driveway, I decided to stay. At least for this first playdate—nothing was going to happen on my watch. So, I “dropped off” Ava but never left. Sorry if that seemed rude, but my comfort level just didn’t allow for it.
This experience underscored the anxiety many parents face when leaving their children in the care of someone they barely know. The thought of entrusting Ava to someone else was daunting. While most playdates proceed without incident, there are times when things go awry, and we must navigate these challenges. Here are some memorable, albeit chaotic, experiences from Ava’s playdates:
Bathroom Dilemmas
One incident involved a little girl who had come to our house and announced she needed help in the bathroom. She explained she had to go at home but her mom didn’t want them to be late for the playdate. To my relief, I wasn’t the one handling this; Ava’s mom, Lisa, was. Unfortunately, it turned into a lengthy ordeal. The girl spent a considerable amount of time in the bathroom, and the outcome was shocking. Lisa remarked that it was astounding how such a small child could produce something so large.
Unsupervised Playdates
When Ava was 7, we picked her up from a friend’s house, and she shared that while she had a great time, she felt uneasy. Naturally, we wanted to know why. It turned out that the friend’s mother and her boyfriend decided to head to the hardware store, leaving the older sibling in charge. This revelation was alarming, and needless to say, Ava never had another playdate at that house.
Trust Issues
During a third-grade pickup, an impromptu playdate formed, and Ava was set to ride home with a friend. I had never met the mother before. I’d seen her at various school events, clipboard in hand, which made me slightly wary. I mentioned that Ava’s booster seat was in another parking lot and asked if I could retrieve it. The mother insisted they had an extra one. I reluctantly accepted and provided my phone number for any emergencies. I didn’t receive any calls, but when Ava returned home, she informed me that there was no booster seat.
Expensive Outfits
On another occasion, I asked Ava and her 4-year-old friend if they wanted to play outside. The little girl insisted she needed to wear Ava’s clothes because her dress had cost $95. I couldn’t help but think that sending a child to a playdate in pricey clothing was unwise. I offered her some spare clothes, but was tempted to push her into a puddle—just kidding, of course!
Inappropriate Hosting
When Ava was in preschool, her mother took her to an early morning playdate. Upon entering, the other mother offered Lisa a beer. “But it’s only 10 a.m.,” Lisa replied, clearly taken aback. I tread carefully on this topic due to my background with addiction, but I believe it’s crucial for those who struggle with similar issues to reconsider hosting playdates.
Missing Dolls
After a particularly long playdate at age 6, Ava’s dolls mysteriously disappeared. We searched high and low, suspecting that the departing child might have taken them. However, the mystery was solved the next day when we discovered all ten Barbies hidden behind a chair in Ava’s room—headless. After this incident, we never saw that little girl again.
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In summary, navigating playdates involves a blend of excitement and anxiety. As parents, it’s essential to remain aware of our children’s surroundings and the adults responsible for them, ensuring their safety and well-being while fostering social connections.