When asked how I’m doing, my typical response is, “I can’t complain.” And truly, I have no reason to. I have a secure home, food to eat, a supportive partner, and healthy children. Instead of focusing on complaints, I strive to embrace gratitude.
Lately, I’ve observed that complaining has become a common form of conversation. We grumble about everything from the weather to slow service and the endless tasks that fill our days. I find myself in this cycle of complaint as well, whether it’s about the sweltering heat, the struggle to maintain my weight while enjoying life’s pleasures, or the fatigue of running errands for my kids. Yes, we all have our moments of frustration.
However, I’m consciously working on minimizing these complaints. I often remind myself of my friend Sarah. I met Sarah in middle school; she was exceptionally intelligent and compassionate. After graduating, she became a middle school English teacher, inspiring young minds. Sarah had her own three children, but during her third pregnancy, she was diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer. Tragically, she passed away at just 39 years old, leaving behind her youngest son, who was only two.
The last time I saw Sarah was at a gathering for a mutual friend. Despite her battle with cancer, she radiated positivity and engaged fully with her children. Her strength and ability to listen made a lasting impression on me. When her cancer returned, it progressed rapidly, and by Thanksgiving, she was gone.
On days when I feel overwhelmed and tempted to complain, I think of Sarah. Standing at the sink doing dishes, I remind myself that she would cherish the opportunity to be present in those mundane moments. When the alarm blares at 6 AM and I’m exhausted, I reflect on how much she would have loved to wake her kids. During long car rides, I remember how fortunate I am to be navigating life, something Sarah would give anything for.
I’m making a conscious effort to shift my conversations toward positivity. It’s challenging, yet it’s a choice I’m committed to. I’m reminded of a father I see at my son’s hockey practices who cheerfully responds, “Living the dream!” when asked how he’s doing. His lightheartedness resonates, as we are indeed living lives many would dream of. So next time you ask me how I’m doing, I hope to respond, “Living the dream! I can’t complain at all.”
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In summary, focusing on gratitude rather than complaints can profoundly affect our perspective on daily life. By remembering those who would cherish the simple acts we often overlook, we can cultivate a more positive mindset and appreciate our experiences.