Last weekend was a whirlwind for me—between mowing the lawn, showering, vacuuming, and prepping for a party, I was on a tight schedule. Just then, my 8-year-old son, Max, piped up and requested a grilled cheese sandwich for lunch. “Can’t you make it yourself, buddy?” I replied. “But Mom,” he insisted, “I want you to make it.”
I get it; we all appreciate a good sandwich now and then. But the reality is, Max needs to learn how to whip up a simple meal. A few years ago, I was shocked to discover that my older kids, Ella and Jake, at ages 8 and 6, didn’t even know how to butter toast. Seriously? I’m the kind of parent who encourages independence—homework gets done solo, clothes are put away without my intervention, and they’re generally pretty self-sufficient. Except for the basics, like spreading butter, which I’m fairly certain even a monkey could manage.
That’s the crux of the matter: the desire to do it themselves. Take the grilled cheese situation, for instance. “Why don’t you give it a try? I’m here if you need a hand,” I suggested while tackling the kitchen chores. Max whined, “But I don’t know how.” I took a deep breath and asked, “What do you think is the first step?” What followed was a comical 10 minutes of my otherwise bright child, who has observed countless grilled cheese creations, claiming he couldn’t fathom how to start—even if he had to guess. He couldn’t even consider retrieving the bread and cheese from the fridge.
I won’t pretend I’m overflowing with patience, and honestly, this was a bit ridiculous. Sure, teaching kids to cook can be rewarding, but the process can also be incredibly frustrating. When they’re toddlers, their “help” in the kitchen is endearing. But when they’re older and suddenly act clueless, it’s far less charming, especially when you suspect you might be partly to blame for their lack of skills. Yikes.
Now that my kids are 6, 8, and 10, the kitchen dynamics are shifting dramatically. Despite the earlier grilled cheese debacle, they generally do pitch in. Ever since the infamous Butter Spreading Incident of 2014, we’ve been intentionally working on culinary skills—the stove, knives, measuring cups, and all that jazz. One time, Max interpreted “one cup of water” as “fill a tall glass and pour it all in,” resulting in a very soupy oatmeal. Ella tried to mix banana muffin batter in a bowl that was way too small, creating a batter eruption. And let’s not even discuss how aggressively Jake peeled carrots, turning them into mere shavings.
While it’s chaotic, these experiences are invaluable. Even if our kitchen doesn’t resemble a MasterChef Junior set, my kids are genuinely learning through trial and error, and it’s wonderful to see them take pride in their accomplishments. Max now eagerly helps with breading chicken, Ella has mastered the art of cheesy scrambled eggs, and Jake is gearing up to learn how to steam mussels for the first time.
Of course, there are days when I wish I could just take over the cooking, especially when time is tight or when I just want to enjoy a quiet moment with a drink and a podcast. But increasingly, they are stepping up to help, and I wouldn’t trade those messy experiences for anything. After all, isn’t that what family life is about? It’s a beautiful jumble of mistakes and growth as we all figure things out together.
Plus, there are fantastic perks. Just this morning, I was treated to cinnamon raisin French toast, a delicious creation by Max and Ella while I enjoyed a book at the kitchen table.
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Summary
Cooking with tweens can be a messy yet rewarding experience. Though it often involves patience and navigating moments of stubbornness, the skills they gain and the pride they feel make it worthwhile. Embracing the chaos of family life, complete with culinary challenges, is a journey filled with growth and bonding.
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