November is a month filled with celebrations – from enjoying pumpkin pie to participating in Black Friday sales. It’s a time for cozy sweaters and laughter at the seasonal trends, but it also marks National Adoption Month. This dual celebration of families and gratitude resonates deeply with me, especially as the parent of two adopted children. With adoption being a significant part of my life, I often encounter a range of intrusive questions that people ask out of curiosity or, sometimes, sheer rudeness. While I typically respond with a polite deflection, I often wish I could express my true thoughts more candidly.
Here are some responses I wish I could share when faced with these adoption inquiries:
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Can’t you have children of your own?
Actually, I cannot, due to medical conditions that necessitated the removal of my reproductive organs. If you want to discuss anatomy, I’m more than willing to share. -
What happened to their real mom?
I’m not sure what you mean by “real mom.” Since they woke me up at dawn asking for breakfast, I think I’m pretty real in their lives. By the way, are those your actual eyelashes? -
How much did they cost?
They were free, but the associated expenses were quite significant. Speaking of costs, how much did you pay for that lavish vacation? -
Do you know Angelina Jolie?
Of course! We often chat about our parenting experiences over wine and snacks. It’s quite the social circle, isn’t it? -
Why did you adopt from China instead of your own country?
I adopted from a place that fit my family’s needs. And by the way, when are you going to discuss your foreign-made products? -
Now that you’ve adopted, do you think you’ll get pregnant?
That’s a fascinating topic, but I think we’ve covered my reproductive history already. See my earlier response. -
Are you planning to tell them they’re adopted?
Of course! It’s crucial to be honest. I’ll gauge their readiness as they grow, especially when they start asking questions during their teenage years. -
You’re a saint for giving those poor children a good home.
Thank you! I appreciate the acknowledgment. Now, if you’ll excuse me, my children need me.
For more insights into the adoption process and personal experiences, you might find this article on intracervical insemination quite engaging. Also, if you’re curious about home insemination, Make a Mom offers detailed information, guiding prospective parents through the journey. Additionally, American Pregnancy provides an excellent resource for understanding donor insemination.
In summary, while I face many probing questions about adoption, I often wish I could articulate my true feelings and experiences more openly. Adoption is a beautiful journey that deserves understanding rather than judgment.