I understand your struggles.
You’re worn out. Worn out from the daily grind. Worn out from your own version of a never-ending cycle. Worn out from fastening seat belts, dealing with sippy cups, changing diapers, erasing marker stains from the wall, managing tantrums, and enduring endless episodes of children’s shows. And now, as we transition into winter, you face the added challenge of hats, boots, mittens, and gloves—oh, the gloves.
You’re exhausted from having your patience constantly tested and from choosing your words with care. Your sense of privacy has vanished, and while your love for your children is immeasurable, you sometimes feel a pang of guilt. Although you wouldn’t trade motherhood for anything, there are days when you dream of stepping out the front door and wandering off to a place of serenity—somewhere you can engage with another adult who relates to you, not just someone who relies on you.
You anticipated the fatigue of parenting, but the loneliness may have caught you off guard. There are moments when you wonder if you can endure; times when you contemplate giving up, feeling like a failure for losing your temper or crying out of frustration. Remember, you are human. Being a mother is incredibly demanding, but you will get through this. One day, unexpectedly, you will experience that moment of relief.
Just yesterday, I encountered one of those moments. I have been rocking my youngest, Clara, to sleep for her naps since she was born. She enjoys it, and honestly, I cherish it too. But as I prepared for our routine, she surprised me by saying, “I don’t want to rock in the rocking chair.” Just like that, she climbed into her bed.
Suddenly, all those fantasies I had about uninterrupted showers and a tidy home lost their appeal. All I could think about were the sweet memories of blankets, footed pajamas, and cuddling with my little one.
Rest assured, there is an endpoint to this phase. You will find yourself on the other side, perhaps sooner than you expect. So, whatever stage you are currently in, focus on a moment you cherish—whether it’s rocking a baby, breastfeeding, reading a story, or simply snuggling. Be present during those instances because they are fleeting.
It may seem like the tough moments of motherhood stretch on indefinitely, but they do come to an end. Unfortunately, when those challenging times fade away, some of the precious moments you truly enjoy may disappear with them.
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Summary:
This letter acknowledges the challenges and exhaustion that come with motherhood, emphasizing the importance of cherishing fleeting moments with children. It reassures mothers that they are not alone in their feelings and that difficult phases will eventually pass, while also providing links to valuable resources on home insemination and fertility.