My partner and I have shared nearly two decades together—17 years to be exact. It’s remarkable, especially since I’m only 31. Just kidding; I’m 40, and that’s a well-known fact. I believe there are certain aspects of our lives that should remain a mystery to one another. These elements of basic human nature don’t necessarily need to be disclosed. Yes, he is my soulmate and the love of my life, but I find value in maintaining a sense of mystique. If I can keep him pondering, “This woman has an air of intrigue, even after all these years,” then I consider myself successful. Here are some suggestions:
1. Reserve Beauty Treatments for Private Moments
Only wear those pore strips meant to clear your nose when he’s not around. I even have ‘Frownies’—stick-on patches designed to keep your face smooth instead of resorting to Botox. He will never witness me in these.
2. Manage Laundry Discreetly
Keep your period-stained underwear hidden at the bottom of the hamper. Better yet, handle your laundry to prevent him from encountering any delicate items.
3. Maintain Bathroom Privacy
Avoid using the restroom for bowel movements in his presence. Surprisingly, my partner believes I, like many women, do not poop. I prefer to think he shares the same belief regarding himself. While we can share the restroom for other purposes, the number two is strictly off-limits. When we stay at hotels, I ensure the fan is on, and I carry travel-sized air freshener with me.
4. Keep Intimate Areas Private
Avoid exposing each other to certain anatomical regions. I don’t think my husband has ever seen mine, and I can’t be certain of what he witnessed during childbirth, especially since the nurses insisted he hold my leg. I want to keep my body a sacred space in his mind.
5. Avoid Unpleasant Experiences
Do not vomit in front of your spouse. Thankfully, I’ve managed to avoid this situation. Once, I was ill and had to crawl back to bed, while he graciously took care of cleaning up.
6. Tactful Sexual Conduct
Refrain from passing gas during intimate moments. I think I’ve succeeded here—after a spicy dinner and a few margaritas, I managed to maintain decorum while being playful.
7. Return Grooming Tools Discreetly
If you’ve borrowed his razor for personal grooming, ensure it’s washed and returned without him noticing. Unwanted hair can be a mood killer, so hopefully, he reciprocates the courtesy.
In conclusion, I believe I maintain about 80% mystery in our marriage. My goal is to keep my stained laundry, certain physical realities, and grooming habits under wraps until death do us part. This approach can be crucial for a long-lasting, fulfilling marriage. For more insights on family dynamics and parenting, visit this related blog post.
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Summary
Maintaining a sense of mystery in a marriage can enhance romance and connection over the years. By keeping certain personal aspects private, couples can preserve a level of intrigue that benefits their relationship.