As we navigate through the digital age, future historians might wonder why mothers seem absent from family photographs. We excel in documenting our children’s milestones—both big and small—yet often neglect to include ourselves in these important moments. Social media feeds are filled with images of our children, but as noted by author Sarah Collins in her piece “Mom Should Be in the Frame,” many of us are missing from our own narratives.
Numerous mothers who approach me for family photos often request to be excluded from the images, hoping to shed a few extra pounds before the session. When the time comes for the picture, they often contort their bodies to downplay perceived flaws. I, too, have fallen into this trap; I’ll discard a photo if I think my arms look too large, even if my husband resembles a movie star and my children seem angelic. However, inspired by Sarah’s article, I am striving to make a conscious effort to be in the frame—whether it’s with my children, my partner, or even solo. Here are my tips for ensuring you embrace the camera as much as you embrace your family:
- Shoot from Above: Capturing images from a higher angle is flattering. Avoid the low-angle shots that distort perspective; instead, let the photographer stand on a stool or bench, aiming downwards.
- Angle Your Body: Position yourself at a right angle to the camera, turning your hips towards it while keeping your shoulders back. This creates a more flattering silhouette by narrowing the waist and broadening the shoulders.
- Chin Down: Contrary to old advice, keeping your chin down enhances your profile. Leaning slightly forward can help avoid unflattering double chins.
- Genuine Smiles Matter: Engage in activities that elicit real laughter. Whether it’s telling a joke or tickling, authentic smiles result in the best photographs. If all else fails, try not smiling at all—it often yields a natural look.
- Posture is Key: Standing tall with your shoulders back can instantly make you look more confident and slender—this is a quick fix that doesn’t require any expensive treatments.
- Utilize Natural Light: Natural light from windows is incredibly forgiving. Turn off the camera flash and have the photographer face away from the window to capture beautiful, soft lighting.
- Opt for Subtle Colors: Avoid loud patterns that can overwhelm the image. Instead, choose neutral tones that complement your features. A well-fitted grey sweater and jeans can look stunning, especially in black and white.
- Elevate with Heels: Wearing high heels can improve your posture and give the illusion of height, even if your feet won’t be featured in the photo.
- Incorporate Your Children: If you’re uncomfortable in front of the camera, use your kids as a focal point. Have them play around you or even pile on your lap for playful shots—this can distract from your insecurities.
- Embrace Confidence: Think about the impressive women in family photos from generations past. Picture yourself as that strong figure for your descendants to admire.
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Summary: It’s essential for mothers to be present in their family photos. By applying these techniques, you can confidently step into the frame and capture beautiful memories with your loved ones.