Updated: June 8, 2020
Originally Published: May 26, 2011
In recent years, there has been a noticeable trend towards categorizing mothers into specific parenting styles. Terms like Natural Parenting, Attachment Parenting, and Gentle Parenting have emerged, leading many mothers to proudly adopt these labels. However, this trend begs the question: why are we so eager to define ourselves in these prescribed ways? More importantly, what if we feel like we don’t fit into any of these categories?
Finding the right parenting label can feel as frustrating as shopping for jeans. You may try on countless styles, and yet none feel quite right. Some may fit well in one area but not in another. So, are you the odd one out, or are others merely conforming to societal expectations?
Consider the following scenarios: You might exclusively breastfeed, which aligns you with Natural Parenting. If you co-sleep, you may identify as an Attachment Parent. If your children have different fathers, you might fear being labeled negatively. Or perhaps you’re in a non-marital relationship, leading to an “alternative” label. Yet, many of us also have parenting practices that deviate from these norms—such as disciplinary methods, recreational activities, or personal struggles.
The core issue remains: what happened to simply being a mom? The cliquish nature of parenting labels can be disheartening. Many mothers, including myself, find solace in the understanding that we are all navigating this journey in our unique ways. It’s essential to recognize that there is no singular “right” approach to motherhood. As long as our children are thriving, we are likely doing things correctly.
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In summary, rather than succumbing to the pressure of fitting into a specific parenting label, embrace your individuality as a mother. Your journey is valid, and your approach to parenting is uniquely yours.