Parenting can sometimes feel like navigating a minefield, especially when that adorable toddler of yours turns into a “threenager.” I first came across this term before my child hit three, thinking it was just a playful way to describe their newfound independence. Little did I know, it also encapsulates the more challenging traits that come with this age—moodiness, stubbornness, and an attitude that can test even the most patient parent.
Once my son hit three, that sweet little boy morphed into what felt like a tiny tyrant. Suddenly, every request was met with a loud “no!” and simple questions turned into demanding interrogations. A minor suggestion could spiral into a full-blown tantrum. As a work-at-home single mom, I often felt like I was trapped in a chaotic circus, longing for a moment of peace.
It’s important to remember that this phase is just a part of their development. But when your threenager is lecturing you on how to clean an apple, it might be tempting to fantasize about them packing a bag and heading out. Luckily, I found that I’m not alone in this struggle. Here are ten strategies from fellow parents who have faced similar challenges and emerged with their sanity intact:
- Get Some Fresh Air: Sometimes a quick escape from the madness is all you need. Take a stroll around the neighborhood or head to a nearby park. As my friend Michelle puts it, “Just keep running—so much running!”
- Snack Time for You: While your threenager may have their favorite snacks, don’t forget to stock up on some treats for yourself. Chocolate and cookies have become my go-to stress relievers. I’ve even been known to sneak bites when he’s not looking.
- Pour a Glass: After a tough day, indulge in a glass of wine or your drink of choice. “Drink. A lot,” is what my friend Tara advises when the going gets rough.
- Find Your Calm: When the chaos feels overwhelming, take a step back. A warm bubble bath, a few minutes of meditation, or just some soothing music can work wonders. Or, as Jenna humorously suggests, “Pot.”
- Watch Your Shows: Everyone needs some ‘me time.’ Whether it’s binge-watching your favorite series or catching up on those house renovation shows, a little entertainment can help you recharge.
- Make Some Noise: If chaos reigns, why not add to it? Sing along to your favorite songs, or let loose with some silly tunes. “I always sing ‘Yellow Submarine’ to lighten the mood,” shares Claire.
- Embrace the Goofiness: A little humor can go a long way in diffusing tension. When my son is throwing a fit about his shoes, I might try putting them on his hands instead. It usually results in laughter and a change in mood.
- Dance It Out: When both of you are feeling down, crank up the music and have a dance party. “It always lifts our spirits!” says Lisa.
- Listen Actively: Sometimes all it takes is to let your child express their feelings. “Validating their emotions, even if they seem silly, helps,” notes Ava. “My daughter calms down when she feels heard.”
- Time for Isolation: There are times when you both need a little space. “I’ve locked myself in the bathroom for a moment of peace,” admits Sarah. It can be an effective way to regroup.
Remember, this phase won’t last forever. As my friend Angela wisely said, “Put yourself in a mommy time-out when things get too intense.” When you’ve asked your child to stop climbing on furniture for the thousandth time, it’s comforting to know there are ways to take a breather. And while I can’t send him packing just yet, I can certainly find moments to breathe and recharge.
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Summary
Parenting a threenager can be incredibly challenging, but there are various strategies that can help. From getting fresh air and sneaking snacks to embracing humor and allowing for some isolation, these tips from fellow parents can provide some relief during this tumultuous stage.