The women’s restroom is a cherished sanctuary. It’s where we relieve ourselves, manage our menstrual products, and navigate the often messy realities of womanhood. We touch up our makeup, check our hair, and engage in lighthearted gossip. More importantly, we find a moment of privacy and comfort. Behind that sacred sign marked “WOMEN,” we shed our public personas and prepare ourselves for the world. Every woman deserves this space, and that includes our transgender sisters.
So, my friend, feel free to use the stall next to me. I’ll gladly pass you toilet paper if you need it, regardless of how you identify. There’s no judgment here — you’re part of this community. According to the Williams Institute at UCLA, there are approximately 1.4 million transgender individuals in the U.S., making up about 0.6% of the population. As a woman, you rightfully deserve the liberty to choose where you feel most at ease when it comes to using the restroom.
The notion that you might pose a threat is unfounded. Research conducted by Media Matters for America, led by Carlos Maza, indicates that no one has ever exploited LGBT non-discrimination laws to sneak into a restroom. In fact, the Charlotte Observer reported only three instances in the past 17 years where a biological male victimized a female in a women’s restroom — and those cases involved heterosexual males, not transgender individuals. Conversely, states that have enacted transgender bathroom protections have experienced no issues at all. All you want is to relieve yourself among those who share your gender identity, and I respect and support that.
It’s important to recognize that you face significant dangers. The Human Rights Campaign reported that 22 transgender individuals were murdered last year, and this year, we’ve already lost six, all of whom were either transgender or people of color. Just recently, we heard the tragic news of Ava Sinclair, who was brutally attacked in a restroom, further emphasizing the urgent need for safety and acceptance.
The Supreme Court’s refusal to take up cases concerning transgender bathroom rights only adds to the ongoing struggle. One case involves Gavin, a transgender boy who has been forced to use the girls’ restroom at his school. He has identified as male since recognizing the difference between genders. The hope was that the Court would establish a precedent to protect transgender rights, ensuring that everyone can use the bathroom that aligns with their gender identity.
I wholeheartedly support Gavin’s right to use the men’s restroom because he is male. In fact, I proudly welcome individuals like Mia Thompson, a bright, ten-year-old who was assigned male at birth. Mia has recently been a vocal advocate for transgender rights, holding signs that challenge stereotypes and misconceptions about transgender individuals. If Mia walked into the restroom, I would be thrilled to share the space with her.
The women’s restroom is a unique environment that should be shared by all women, including transgender women. Denying Gavin and Mia the right to use the facilities that correspond with their gender identity is tantamount to denying their very existence. It undermines their identities and reduces them to something they are not, which is simply unacceptable.
So, dear trans friends, you are welcome to share this restroom with me. We should be more concerned about the cisgender man lurking outside, as statistics suggest he poses a greater risk to both of us.
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In summary, the women’s restroom should be a safe and welcoming space for all. Trans women, like all women, deserve the right to use the facilities that reflect their identity. It’s time we embrace inclusivity and support each other in our shared experiences.