When I was 18, I was convinced I was prepared for college. In reality, what I was really ready for was the freedom of being away from my parents, sneaking drinks, and enjoying the absence of a curfew. But taking my future career path seriously? Not a chance. My classmates and I had a blast, but we were all just kids playing at adulthood.
As we stand at the altar and say, “I do,” do we truly grasp the weight of that lifelong commitment? We’re pledging our loyalty and love to one person, through thick and thin—even when they drive us to the brink of insanity with their chewing habits. The truth is, none of us can fully understand what we’re signing up for; it’s our first time making such a profound promise, after all. But we feel that spark of readiness, and often, that’s enough to push us forward.
So, are we ever genuinely ready for anything? The feeling of preparedness often disguises itself as readiness. When we embark on significant life changes for the first time, we rarely have a roadmap. We only discover our true state of readiness in hindsight. Yes, we might be ready for some of the fun parts—like late-night Taco Tuesdays or spontaneous adventures—but that doesn’t mean we’re equipped for the entire journey.
Then there are moments when we sense we’re not quite ready, yet we leap anyway. Life unfolds, and sometimes we feel compelled to act, even when we know we lack the preparation. As time passes, we might look back and think, “Wow, I was so young and naive. Why did I think I was ready?” This thought often crosses my mind when I reflect on my first pregnancy.
I felt fully prepared for motherhood—I had yearned for a child for years, counted down the days until I could hold him, and documented every little movement. I was even the person wearing maternity clothes way too early and endlessly discussing my impending motherhood. But when he finally arrived, I quickly realized how unprepared I truly was. I wasn’t ready for sleepless nights, constant feedings, or the emotional rollercoaster that came with caring for another life. Yet, somehow, I managed. We always do.
The saying “ignorance is bliss” exists for a reason. After stepping into motherhood—and a multitude of other experiences—before I felt truly ready, I’ve come to appreciate that taking the plunge often leads to the most rewarding outcomes. If I hadn’t taken those leaps, I wouldn’t have my three incredible kids, nor would I have had the chance to learn and grow through my mistakes.
Life has a way of happening regardless of our readiness. Children grow, relationships shift, loved ones can fall ill, and disappointments will come our way. We cannot control everything the universe throws at us, yet we can learn from every unexpected moment. Each challenge we face, even when we don’t feel ready, prepares us for the next hurdle.
I’m not suggesting we should avoid preparation for life’s major milestones, nor am I advocating for reckless decisions. However, it’s essential to recognize that some experiences can only be fully understood once we dive in. We brace ourselves for the impact, and we navigate our way through one day at a time.
Ultimately, we do emerge from these trials, and often, we come out stronger and more resilient. And trust me, I’m more than ready for a boozy Taco Tuesday to help me tackle the chaos of figuring out this wild journey called life. You should join me!
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Summary
The journey to marriage and motherhood often feels like a leap into the unknown. While we may think we are prepared, true readiness often reveals itself only after we’ve taken the plunge. Each experience teaches us invaluable lessons, shaping us into better individuals. Embracing the chaos of life, whether through marriage, parenting, or simply navigating adulthood, ultimately leads to growth and resilience.