When my child casually mentioned “pot brownies,” I felt compelled to step in. “You mean marijuana brownies, right?” I corrected. “What’s the difference?” they shrugged. That was my cue for a serious conversation about drugs. I hesitated, unsure if “crack brownies” were actually a thing—are they?—and realized it was time to have a frank discussion about marijuana.
With recreational marijuana use now legal in some states, the conversation has become more complicated. As child advocacy expert Lisa Harper noted in a recent interview, kids often think, “It’s legal, so it must be acceptable.” But let’s be clear: it remains illegal for minors to use marijuana. Explaining why it’s permissible for adults in certain states yet not for them can be a real challenge. According to Dr. Emily Thompson, a clinical psychologist at the National Child Health Institute, it’s crucial to approach the subject openly and without judgment.
Find the Right Moment
Dr. Thompson suggests that parents can start discussing marijuana with their kids around age 10. However, if your child asks questions earlier—perhaps they saw someone using it on a show—don’t hesitate to engage them in conversation. Begin with questions like, “What do you know about marijuana?” or “What are your thoughts on its legalization?” Avoid making it feel like an official meeting, which might make them shut down.
Set Clear Boundaries
Children flourish in environments where expectations are established. Dr. Thompson emphasizes that harsh punishments are unlikely to deter them from using marijuana and could strain your relationship. Instead, encourage open dialogue, making it clear that you’re available to discuss any concerns they may have.
Skip the Old-School Analogies
Remember those infamous “This is Your Brain on Drugs” commercials? While they aimed to highlight the dangers of drug use, they often backfire. As Dr. Mark Sanders, director at the State Health Agency, points out, focusing solely on health risks might cause teens to tune out. Instead, discuss the impact of marijuana on their life goals, like graduating school or obtaining a driver’s license. Using marijuana can impair their ability to study and succeed.
Be Honest About Your Own Experiences
While you don’t need to disclose every detail about your past, Dr. Thompson advises that if your child inquires, you should respond honestly. You might say, “I’ve tried it, and here’s what I experienced.” If you currently use marijuana responsibly, you can explain, “I’m of age and use it in a responsible manner.”
Reassure Your Availability
Finally, ensure that your child knows they can reach out to you in times of trouble. Make it clear: “If you ever feel unsafe, call me—I’m here to help.” And if that call comes, be sure to follow through with your promise to support them.
For additional insights on this topic, check out our related post on how to approach marijuana discussions with your kids here.
In summary, talking about legal marijuana with your children requires openness, honesty, and a focus on their future. Encourage dialogue, set clear boundaries without harsh punishments, and relate the topic to their life goals. By fostering trust and communication, you can better navigate this complex subject with them.
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