I’ve been grappling with how to articulate my feelings after encountering a rather shocking comment online. It was just a handful of words buried beneath an article I wrote about mental health, but they struck a nerve. They made me feel angry, upset, and ultimately, scared. The comment was not merely harsh or judgmental; it was vulgar and sexualized. It conveyed a sense of violence that left me rattled.
“What she needs is a strong man with a massive member. That’ll take care of her issues.” To be clear, this is absolute nonsense; no one’s anatomy can cure mental health struggles. It’s absurd to suggest that sexual encounters can “fix” anyone’s mental state.
Now, I should provide some context about the article and myself because perhaps I did something to provoke such vitriol, right? Maybe I was rude or insensitive? Or perhaps I’m just too uptight? Maybe I do need a good romp or some kind of sexual release? And maybe a big, strong man would solve everything… Oh, wait. None of this is true.
I didn’t do anything wrong. I don’t deserve to hear such degrading comments, and no woman does. Regardless of who I am or what I do, being subjected to sexual taunts is unacceptable. Such language is demoralizing and demeaning. It exemplifies sexism in its most potent form.
I can already hear some of you thinking: “You’re being overly dramatic or too sensitive. It was just a joke.” But if that’s your stance, let me share something with you: every time you hear this kind of language and remain silent, you contribute to the problem. Every time you use such language, you reinforce damaging stereotypes and normalize gender discrimination. You excuse aggression and violence. According to Everyday Feminism, language like “shut up” or “suck it” perpetuates a culture that normalizes sexual violence.
I’m tired of remaining silent. Today, I’m speaking out—not just for myself but for all the women who have been in similar situations. Women who’ve faced threats of violence, who’ve been demeaned and degraded, whether online, on the street, or at work. Your words are frightening, and your proposed actions can be terrifying.
You might see nothing wrong with your comment; it might seem like “locker room talk” or “boys being boys.” But it isn’t. Real men don’t talk like this. So, if you’re still reading, think before you type or speak. Do it for yourself, your friends, your family, or the women in your life because hatred doesn’t look good on anyone.
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In summary, the toxic language that normalizes sexual aggression must be called out. It’s time we stand together and reject these harmful stereotypes for the sake of everyone.