Dear Family, Friends, Acquaintances, and Random Folks at the Grocery Store,
I want to take a moment to address the relentless inquiries about whether I plan to have another child. Despite the constant suggestions from all corners—from my mother, my husband’s mother, my sister’s husband’s mom, that friendly neighbor, and even the barista at my coffee shop—I have made the decision to have just one child. Let me clarify: my decision is not born from a traumatic birthing experience or any medical complications. It’s simply about what’s best for my family.
You might think I’m being selfish. But if working tirelessly to provide for my family, spending my limited free time enjoying moments with my son, and craving a few uninterrupted meals with my husband is selfish, then perhaps I wear that label proudly. Yes, I also want to squeeze in some gym time, catch up with friends occasionally, and get my hair cut once in a blue moon. Believe me, it is possible to find joy and fulfillment with one child.
You express concern that my son will lack a playmate. But the truth is, siblings don’t always play together. They can have completely different interests—one can be a fan of trucks while the other prefers dress-up. Instead of relying on a hypothetical sibling for companionship, I want to cherish these precious years with my son and actively engage in his playtime. After all, those moments are irreplaceable and deeply fulfilling.
And yes, I hear the “What about when you’re gone?” argument. It’s true; having a second child could create a built-in support system for my son. However, I firmly believe that I can instill the values of friendship and family in him throughout his life. If it eases your mind, I plan to look into life insurance options—better than the alternative of having another child, right?
You mention wanting more cuteness in my life. Believe me, my son is adorable, and while they say every child is unique, I’m not willing to gamble on that. As for the idea of trying for a girl, I have my own experience as a girl, and let’s just say I’m not keen on a repeat of that. Besides, I already have a sister, and she’s got her own quirks that I’d rather not relive.
There’s also concern about my son being spoiled. Honestly, if I had two kids, I’d be too busy juggling finances for college funds and mediating squabbles to focus on spoiling anyone. My role as a parent is to teach my son about limits, good behavior, and how to navigate life without losing his mind in a toy store.
In the end, having one child is what works best for our family, and I appreciate your concern, but I’m entirely devoted to raising my wonderful son just the way I see fit.
With love and hugs,
Jessica
P.S. Please refrain from saying “one and done”—it’s just awkward.
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