Religion has always been a complex aspect of my life. Growing up in a Christian household, I was immersed in the teachings of the faith, but as I matured, I found myself questioning the validity of organized religion. I appreciate the wisdom of various philosophies, including Buddhism and Taoism, yet I don’t identify as strictly religious.
When my partner and I welcomed our daughter in the fall of 2015, we faced some challenging conversations about how to raise her. The first time someone asked if we would have her baptized, I took a deep breath, knowing I needed to respond thoughtfully.
“No, we won’t be baptizing her,” I said. “We believe in allowing her the freedom to explore her own beliefs about spirituality and religion when she’s older.”
The reaction was immediate and uncomfortable—silence filled the room, followed by disbelief. “But what if something happens? Unbaptized children go to Hell!”
I couldn’t believe the weight of that statement, but I kept my composure and decided to revisit the topic another time. Over the next few months, we had similar discussions, but eventually, they faded as my daughter grew.
Now, at 4 years old, she embodies kindness, empathy, and thoughtfulness. Time has shown that my concerns about her moral compass were unfounded. In fact, research supports that children raised outside of religious frameworks can be incredibly generous. A 2015 study published in Current Biology highlighted this by examining the behavior of over 1,100 children from Christian, Muslim, and irreligious backgrounds. It revealed that those without religious upbringing tended to be more generous in sharing resources compared to their religious peers.
My daughter is a perfect example of this. She is polite, compassionate, and quick to comfort others in distress. Whether it’s sharing her toys at the playground or offering a hug to someone who is upset, she acts out of a deep understanding of kindness, not from a religious directive.
Values like empathy, forgiveness, and gratitude are not solely derived from religious teachings. Many people cultivate these qualities without any spiritual framework. After all, it’s not religion that makes good people; it’s the love and understanding we instill in our children. I am committed to nurturing my daughter into a wonderful person—one who knows that treating others with respect and kindness is simply the right thing to do.
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In summary, raising a child without religion does not equate to raising a child devoid of morals. Through love and education, children can develop empathy and kindness that are intrinsic to being good people.
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