I still remember the sting of betrayal when, at just 14 years old, I found out my mom was secretly reading my diary. The feelings of anger, hurt, and sheer vulnerability washed over me, especially since I had recently poured my teenage angst onto the pages, ranting about my mother’s rules that felt so stifling. Back in the early ’90s, my world revolved around scribbling my thoughts in a notebook, not sharing them with a global audience.
Now, as a parent to a tween, I’ve found myself in a similar situation regarding my son’s smartphone. The question of whether to monitor his device looms large, and having experienced that feeling of intrusion myself, I’ve come to a resolute decision: I keep a close eye on it. And the reason is straightforward — these are electronic devices, not private journals. Unlike my diary entries, my son’s messages and posts can reach countless people instantly.
When we finally decided to give my son his first smartphone, we set clear boundaries. Our conversation went something like this: “This is your phone, but it belongs to your father and me too. You’re allowed to use it for communication and entertainment, provided you stay on top of your grades and other commitments. I will be checking the contents of this phone regularly. Every text, Snapchat, and email is subject to my review. If there’s anything you wouldn’t want me to see, maybe you shouldn’t say it at all. Remember, this privilege can be revoked if you aren’t meeting expectations.”
By establishing these rules early on, I aimed to shift the narrative from “invasion of privacy” to “I care about your safety.” I want to ensure my son and his friends aren’t getting into trouble. Plus, it allows me to talk to him about relevant issues before his buddies fill him in. That’s a conversation I want to have, not leave to the whims of his friends.
It’s not a matter of trust in my son; it’s about the unpredictable world outside. Handing my child unrestricted access to technology without guiding him feels like a recipe for disaster. I certainly don’t want him to end up in a precarious situation similar to others we hear about in the news.
In today’s digital landscape, privacy is a blurred line, especially when kids can broadcast their lives with a tap. If my son were to keep a physical diary tucked away, I would respect that privacy completely.
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In summary, monitoring my son’s phone isn’t about invasion; it’s about guidance and support in a world that’s ever-changing.
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