Life & Relationships
By Jamie Taylor
Updated: March 16, 2021
Originally Published: September 17, 2016
Years ago, when we were just starting our journey as wide-eyed newlyweds, I had no clue about the intricacies of marriage and parenting. I never imagined date nights would turn into late-night board games and Sunday movie marathons. I didn’t foresee us developing a unique language made up of sighs, chuckles, and little gestures that spoke volumes without uttering a single word. And I definitely didn’t think it was possible to miss you so much while sharing the same space.
Yet here we are, and I genuinely do miss you.
Despite living together, sharing a bed, and navigating life side by side, there are moments—days, weeks, months—when life just gets hectic. Whether it’s your long hours at work or my own demanding schedule, we often find ourselves juggling responsibilities and the needs of our little ones. The tiny humans who call us Mom and Dad constantly vie for our attention, while work demands, deadlines, and family obligations pull us in every direction. By the end of the day, we’re often too exhausted to do anything but zone out in front of the TV, barely catching snippets of our favorite shows.
We know our marriage is the cornerstone of our family, so we strive to carve out time for each other. We plan date nights and stay up late to squeeze in a movie together. We even indulge in kid-free getaways—be it a short night away or a long weekend. Our daily communication often consists of quick texts, checking in with simple “How’s your day?” or sharing funny memes to brighten each other’s mood. We’ve learned to make the most of every minute together.
Still, there are moments when I feel the ache of missing you.
There are days when I long for those deep conversations that flowed effortlessly. I miss our lazy Sunday mornings snuggled in bed, or the joy of finishing each other’s thoughts without interruption from little voices asking “Can I have…” or “Guess what, Dad?” I miss those simple pleasures like commuting home together, reading side by side, or brunching at our favorite spot.
There are days when I crave your presence, the warmth of your hand, just breathing the same air. I miss knowing the little details of your day—what you had for lunch, how your commute went, and the sound of your laughter.
Your dedication to providing for our family is evident in the long hours you put into work. You handle client demands, draft documents, and navigate courtrooms, all while making it to our son’s baseball game or playing with our younger child. You break up squabbles and remind the kids to brush their teeth, only to settle down for more work once bedtime rolls around.
I, too, pour my energy into our family, balancing school runs, swim lessons, and doctor appointments alongside my own work commitments. I help with homework and ensure the kids are ready for bed, all while fitting in my professional responsibilities.
Both of us are tirelessly working to support our family in our own ways.
Sometimes it feels as if the universe conspires to keep us apart. Just as your schedule calms down, mine heats up. One weekend, I’m away, and the next, it’s your turn. Just when we think we have a grip on things, unexpected emergencies or last-minute plans throw us off course.
Yet, this experience is not unique to us. It’s part of being adults, being parents, and being partners. We are constantly surrounded by demands for our time and energy. While we strive to prioritize each other, the needs of our children and family often take precedence, leaving us longing for one another.
But perhaps this yearning isn’t entirely negative. Maybe it serves as a reminder of the passion and romance we once shared. In these moments of missing you, I rediscover how much I need you in my life. It reinforces my awareness of your love for our family and reminds me that you remain my one and only.
So until our next date night, stolen kiss, movie marathon, or weekend escape—until we find the next moment to cuddle on the couch—I will continue to miss you because my love for you has only grown stronger since those early days of our marriage.
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