You’re not a bad person, but truthfully, you’re not the partner I need anymore.
My affection for you began to fade when you decided to pursue your education. We had high hopes of a brighter financial future, believing your degree would quickly lead to a better paycheck. So, we agreed that you would juggle full-time work and school while I stayed home to care for our little ones. Our daughter was just a toddler, and our son was barely six months old. During those sleepless nights, it was me who comforted them when they were unwell. I rocked them to sleep, played with them, taught them, and managed the household.
It was all on my shoulders.
As you immersed yourself in school, I grew more independent. I learned how to run our home and raise our children solo. I leaned on myself, and I managed just fine. I didn’t harbor any resentment at first; I believed in your dream and the promise of a future payoff. However, years later, I find myself in a cramped apartment, our finances nearly unchanged since your return to school. The only difference? I’m contributing to that account as well. I figured out how to earn extra income, which was a lifesaver because I honestly don’t know where we’d be without it.
But here we are. Those lonely months of parenting have stripped away my desire to rely on you or even hold our marriage together. I feel like an island sharing a bed. When you offer input on parenting, I can’t help but think, “You weren’t even here. You chased a dream while we’re buried in debt.”
In reality, I don’t need you. I could walk away, but… I can’t bring myself to do that to our kids.
Having experienced divorce firsthand, I know the pain it brings. I remember the sleepless nights filled with self-doubt, wondering if I was the reason for the split. I recall the emotional turmoil of Father’s Day events at school and watching my mom struggle to provide for us. These memories still haunt me. I couldn’t leave you; I can’t put our children through that.
They are oblivious to the struggles I face, the arguments we’ve had, the tears shed over our crumbling relationship. They deserve better than to bear the weight of our choices. I want them to have two loving parents. I want them to experience a nurturing family unit, something I never had.
So, every day, I will strive to forgive both of us for our missteps and shortcomings. I will attempt to see you through a lens of hope, focusing on our future rather than our past. I will pray for our marriage to improve. I promised my love and commitment in front of God and our loved ones, and I will hold true to those vows—not for my sake, but for our children. I hope they never learn that there was a time when I considered leaving you, but couldn’t bring myself to do that to them.
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In summary, maintaining a marriage amidst challenges is incredibly difficult, especially when children are involved. This journey is filled with sacrifices and hopes, ultimately aimed at creating a loving environment for our kids.
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