Recently, I was having a heartfelt conversation with my long-time friend, Sarah. I opened up about my tendency to be overly sarcastic and wondered if I should tone it down a bit. Her response was a reminder of why we’ve been inseparable for over 25 years. “That’s the person I’ve loved all these years; please don’t change,” she said. She knows me inside out and loves me for it — and honestly, at 42, I’m not about to change, nor does she want me to.
Chances are, you’re not going to change much either, and you shouldn’t have to for the sake of keeping good friends. Here are the traits that define the kind of friends who will embrace you for exactly who you are:
Moms Need Friends Who Embrace Authenticity.
It’s exhausting to always keep ourselves polished out of fear of discomfort. Moms require friends who allow their true, messy selves to shine without judgment.
Moms Need Friends Who Can Dream Big.
We often talk about glamorous girls’ get-togethers, where we’ll wear fabulous heels and sip cocktails. But let’s be real — we’re just as happy snuggled in our pajamas, munching on junk food. The high-energy plans can wait for another day.
Moms Need Friends Who Don’t Mind Pajama Parties.
Sometimes we need our besties at odd hours — whether it’s early morning or late at night (okay, maybe just 9 p.m.). That includes seeing each other without the frills, like a braless BFF in an oversized tee.
Moms Need Friends Who Make Them Laugh.
Life can be a relentless grind with parenting, careers, and everything in between. We all crave some comic relief. If you can bring a smile to my face, even unintentionally, you’ve earned a special place in my life. If you can make me laugh so hard I cry, you’re a keeper for life.
Moms Need Friends Who Speak Up.
If I’ve upset you, I want you to tell me directly, not gossip about it with someone else. I don’t need a middleman like Karen from down the street complicating things. We’re too busy for that nonsense.
Moms Need Friends Who Encourage Growth.
Whether I’m grappling with bad habits or embarking on new adventures, I need friends who motivate me. Encourage me to grab that extra cup of coffee, indulge in those fries, and update me on the latest shoe sales, even if my partner suggests otherwise. You remind me I’m capable, even when I doubt it.
Moms Need Friends Who’ve Got Their Back.
If someone starts trash-talking my friend, I will not stand for it. I’ll ensure they know to back off. No one messes with my crew.
Moms Need Friends Who Understand Kids Can Be Difficult.
All kids can be a handful sometimes. If you think yours are perfect angels, this friendship probably won’t work.
Moms Need Friends Who Keep it Real at Sports Events.
Whether it’s your kid or mine, if you’re a jerk on the sidelines, you’re a jerk in real life, and I prefer genuine friendships over that drama.
Moms Need Friends Who Tell the Truth About Fashion Choices.
Honesty is crucial. If I look ridiculous, please let me know. If I’ve got something stuck in my teeth or if I’ve got bird droppings in my hair, I want to hear it!
Moms Need Friends Who Understand Texting is Enough.
You don’t mind if we only communicate via text, and when I call in a pinch, you won’t judge me if I have to step away for a moment because, let’s face it, motherhood is hard on the bladder.
Moms Need Friends Who Stay Through Tough Times.
When life gets rocky, it’s your true friends who will stand by you. They’ll help you navigate through the chaos and be there when you emerge on the other side.
Moms Need Friends Who Share Their Snacks.
Sometimes I crave a salad but desperately want to snag a few of your nachos. If you’re cool with me swiping a bit of frosting from your cake with my fingers, we’re golden. But I’ll draw the line at licking salt off your margarita glass — that’s where I have to respect boundaries!
In summary, moms crave friends who accept their imperfections, who are honest, supportive, and ready to share a laugh or a plate of fries. We thrive on relationships that allow us to be our true selves, without pretense or judgment. If you’re looking for some wonderful resources about insemination or parenting, check out this excellent resource for pregnancy and home insemination. And if you’re in need of supplies, this online retailer offers at-home insemination kits that can be a great help. Remember, finding the right friends is all about mutual understanding and love.
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