Updated: July 8, 2021
Originally Published: September 9, 2016
These are my stretch marks. I created them.
Those words filled the pages of my journal last summer, right next to the notes I had been taking about my mother’s health. When you find yourself in a hospital day after day, the routine becomes familiar: the nurses’ greetings, the updates on her condition. You learn to accept seeing a loved one in such a fragile state. Yet within that routine, extraordinary moments emerge.
As I entered my mother’s hospital room, I was struck by her body, a vessel that had carried her for sixty years. To say it had endured hardships would be an understatement: breast cancer, kidney cancer, liver failure, and finally, a metastatic brain tumor. She had not always treated it kindly, either. Years of smoking, a decade of drinking, a love for sweets, and an aversion to exercise had taken their toll. She never complained, at least not in front of me.
It had been a few days since we’d shared a meaningful conversation. Her eyes remained closed, and she had stopped eating, yet she fidgeted slightly. Her bright green shirt was pulled up just beneath her remaining breast, exposing her belly, swollen with fluid.
For a brief moment, I felt an urge to look away and cover her up. My mother had always been self-conscious about her body. The only proof of her ever wearing a two-piece bathing suit was a faded photograph from her teenage years, showing off a tall, slender frame with striking legs. But since then, she had often lamented her body, covering up in one-piece swimsuits and beach cover-ups, always tugging at shirts that felt too revealing.
Yet in that quiet room, with just the two of us and the hum of unplugged machines, jagged white lines resembling bear claw marks reached up from her sides, and I couldn’t tear my eyes away. A surreal intensity enveloped me, and in that moment, I felt the weight of our forty years together etched into her skin.
Those stretch marks told a story: I was her child. I represented her sleepless nights, her heartburn, her struggles to find comfort, and her longing for the end of the pregnancy journey. It encapsulated a lifetime of joy, struggles, and unbreakable bonds. Soon, she would take those marks with her.
Stretch marks are hardly anyone’s ideal. I understand that. They, along with C-section scars and other physical reminders of motherhood, can challenge a woman’s self-image. It’s common in our society to feel the need to hide or alter these signs of life. We are individuals beyond our roles as mothers and often want to feel good about ourselves.
But what if, just for a moment, as we trace our fingers over these marks that peek out from swimsuits or jeans, we think about how our children perceive us? One day, they may look at our scars and see not flaws or imperfections but rather a connection filled with love and gratitude.
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In summary, our bodies tell a story of love and sacrifice, etched in every mark we carry. While we may struggle with our self-image, it’s crucial to remember the deeper connections these marks represent for our children.
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