Every parent knows that when it comes to a 4-year-old’s opinions, they can often be as stubborn as a mule. My daughter, Chloe, firmly believes she knows better than anyone else, including her parents. From her insistence that “purple” is pronounced “purtle” to her unique take on appropriate fashion for outings, she’s got opinions that can spark a full-scale debate.
“Why don’t you ever wear your fancy black outfit?” she exclaimed one day as we were preparing for a neighborhood gathering.
“Sweetheart, it’s boiling outside and that black shawl is made of wool. I’m truly sorry that I’m not meeting your fashion standards, Your Highness,” I replied, possibly with a playful bow.
Like all 4-year-olds, Chloe carries the belief that she has been around long enough to be an expert on life. Add in her fierce determination, and I often find myself embroiled in nonsensical arguments. Yet, I’ve come to consider myself quite skilled at navigating these unique disputes. Here’s how you can also “win” an argument with a headstrong 4-year-old:
“Hey there, Chloe. I totally get that you want to dress however you feel, but that outfit isn’t going to cut it today.”
“Yes, I see that you feel like a princess and that you put a lot of effort into your look. But it’s summertime and you’re wearing leg warmers and snow boots.”
“They are technically covering your legs, yes. But it’s like a million degrees outside.”
“I know, it’s as hot as lava!”
“Remember that day we played ‘don’t touch the hot lava’ with the pillows on the floor? That was so much fun!”
“Yes, I promise we’ll play it again soon—but not right now.”
“Because we’ll be late to the party if we start the lava game now.”
“Also, the bigger issue is that your dress has turned into more of a shirt because you’ve grown taller.”
“I know it’s covering your behind, but that doesn’t meet the definition of a dress.”
“No, it’s not a dress.”
“Seriously, it’s not a dress!”
If you’re determined to wear that shirt that isn’t a dress, you absolutely need to put on some shorts. And let’s ditch the leg warmers and boots.”
“Oh, you think you look like a superhero princess? Well, you’re going to be a superhero princess of fire because your legs will definitely burn the moment you step outside!” (A brief laugh escapes me before I regain my composure.)
“I’m sorry for laughing. I won’t do it again. I promise.”
“Okay. Let’s just find some shorts and different shoes.”
“Because you always have to wear shoes.”
“Yes, always—well, not at the beach, but we aren’t going to the beach today. We’re headed to a party, remember?”
“Because the beach is far away.”
“Yes, we’ll go sometime! Next Christmas, perhaps. Now, can you please find those shorts and shoes?”
At this point, I may have raised my voice slightly out of sheer frustration. But honestly, it was a mutual struggle. In the end, I think she opted for the shorts that day, although the specifics are a little hazy now. Perhaps it’s best that we both wear what makes us happy, as long as we’re appropriately covered.
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In summary, while “winning” an argument with a 4-year-old might seem like a stretch, finding a balance between their desires and practicalities often leads to a smoother experience for both parent and child.
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