It was during a hectic day of packing for a business trip that my husband dropped the life-altering news: our marriage was over, and he wanted a divorce. In that moment, I felt a complex swirl of emotions—crushed yet, oddly enough, relieved. Just a few months prior, the thought of this news would have filled me with dread. However, after transitioning from being a stay-at-home mom to securing a steady job, I felt a newfound sense of stability. In 2016, the financial implications of divorce are still a heavy burden for many moms, especially those who have dedicated years to raising kids at home.
Most people don’t enter marriage expecting it to end. Likewise, few mothers embark on parenthood with the mindset of becoming a single mom. As I stood in shock, absorbing my husband’s words, I felt the weight of this reality settle on my shoulders.
Navigating the emotional upheaval of divorce while maintaining a job has provided me with a semblance of peace amidst the chaos. First and foremost, I have the assurance that I can provide for my children. While our living situation may not be ideal for some time, I can guarantee them safety. Additionally, my job serves as a refuge, allowing me to temporarily escape the haunting “what-ifs” and “could-have-beens” that plague my mind. Losing myself in work gives my heart a much-needed break.
Had I still been a stay-at-home mom when my husband delivered his devastating news, I honestly can’t imagine how I would have coped. I hear inspiring tales of women rising from the ashes of broken relationships, finding their strength to forge new paths, but I often question whether I possess that same resilience. My inner dialogue tends to echo “I’m just a mom,” which doesn’t feel nearly as empowering.
The hardest part of this journey is knowing my kids are watching every step. They see me striving to maintain composure, even as I grapple with my own heartbreak. I’m doing my best to uphold respect and peace with their father, but the reality is challenging. My job means I can model for them how to stand strong, regardless of the outcome. “I am more than just a mom—I’m a fierce warrior,” I remind myself.
As night falls and I try to sleep, my mind races through the tasks ahead. I often find myself repeating the mantra to breathe and be strong. I don’t always feel confident; there are moments I wish I could crumble, but I know I must press on. My heart and mind engage in a constant tug-of-war, filled with love, fear, plans, and sorrow.
Each morning, I rise, don my work attire, prepare lunches, and plant kisses on foreheads before heading to the office. Knowing that a paycheck will land in my account by Friday offers a sliver of comfort. With determination, I will eventually seek a modest home where I can demonstrate my strength to my children.
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In summary, being a working mom has equipped me with the strength to confront my divorce head-on. Despite the hurdles, I strive to show my children resilience and the importance of standing tall, no matter the circumstances.
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