As a stay-at-home mom (SAHM), I often find myself on the receiving end of curious questions about my future plans. It started with innocent inquiries like, “What do you do all day?” and has now escalated to the pointed “What will you do next year when all your kids are in school?” These questions can feel judgmental, as if there’s a right answer that everyone is waiting to hear.
I’ve wrestled with feelings of guilt and inadequacy during my time as a SAHM. Some days, I’ve struggled to get the laundry done or prepare dinner, and I’ve found myself comparing my efforts to those of working moms who juggle jobs and family life. It can be overwhelming, especially during the chaotic phases of parenting — like those intense years with toddlers and twins. But as my children grow older, I’ve started to embrace my role with confidence and purpose.
After much reflection and discussion with my partner, I’ve decided to continue being a stay-at-home mom even after my kids start school. Here are five reasons why:
1. Because I Can.
Let’s be honest — our family has thrived on my husband’s income alone for years, and there’s no reason to change that. We are not rolling in cash, but we are comfortable enough to prioritize my staying home. While an extra paycheck would certainly be nice, we know that my presence at home brings invaluable benefits.
2. To Be Available.
With school holidays, unexpected sick days, and breaks throughout the year, I want to be the one who is there for my kids. They are only in school for about 180 days a year, and having me available means we won’t have to scramble for childcare on those odd days off. Plus, I won’t have to work evenings or weekends, which allows for more family time.
3. To Lighten the Load for My Partner.
While some may think that not working adds strain to our family, for us, it alleviates stress. My husband puts in long hours at work, and I want to take on more household responsibilities that he has shouldered alone for too long. From yard work to laundry, I want him to come home and enjoy some relaxation instead of diving into chores.
4. To Become Better.
I plan to enhance the skills I’ve been practicing all along. With more time, I can focus on meal planning, find better deals while shopping, and manage my time more effectively. I also want to invest in myself: pursuing hobbies that ignite my passion and contribute to my happiness. A more fulfilled me means a happier family life.
5. Because Time is Precious.
Life is fleeting, and I’ve experienced this firsthand as a cancer survivor and through a challenging childbirth. The most valuable thing we have is our time together. By staying home, I can handle chores during the week, freeing up our weekends for family activities. Every moment counts, especially as I watch my children grow up too quickly.
So what does the future hold for me? Enjoyment. I’m ready to embrace this next chapter with open arms and a positive mindset.
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In summary, my decision to remain a stay-at-home mom is rooted in my desire to support my family, embrace my role, and cherish the time we have together.
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