Will she hold on to the memory of those hands? I truly hope so. I like to believe she will cherish this recollection long after tonight fades into the past. The essence of that moment will likely linger far beyond the specifics of the event itself. She’ll remember the large, rough, and calloused hands that delicately affixed a simple corsage—a first for both of them—a bright yellow carnation secured with a slip of elastic and a touch of Velcro.
My role was straightforward: I was the dressing assistant and photographer. It wasn’t until they stepped out into the rain that I found myself swallowing back tears. My father and I never attended a formal dance together; however, I vividly remember the hands that held mine during my wedding, along with the joyful glimmer in his eyes.
While we may not have danced at organized events during my youth, we frequently enjoyed outings with the Indian Princess program. The year following my brother’s passing, we ventured on a white-water rafting trip in the North Carolina mountains with the same group of fathers and daughters. The effort my dad made meant the world to me, and now I was witnessing a similar connection between my daughter and her father.
It’s his hands I want her to reminisce about—the hands that may have clumsily fumbled with the yellow flower, yet were steady and reassuring. These were the hands of a father who made sure to be home early, calming the eager daughter who, at just six years old, had already become a diligent timekeeper when it came to her dad’s promises for exciting activities.
If he ever made her wait, the consequences were humorous. I relished the playful reprimands, much like any mother who has learned to pick her battles in the evolving dynamics of marriage. It is she who has shifted the balance. Those tiny hands reaching out for a goodnight hug, coaxing his strong hands for a swing in a bath towel, or pleading for a tickle attack—she has woven her way into his heart in ways I never could, and I find it absolutely beautiful.
I want her to remember the man who fell in love with her first. Though he belongs to another, I wish for her heart and mind to capture little snapshots of what true love should look like—kindness, gentleness, and nurturing, all expressed through a father’s touch. Those hands smoothing back her dark mane to check for a fever, the hands that hold her little ones as they bounce together on the trampoline that Santa brought three Christmases ago.
Just recently, those same hands that presented her with a corsage will soon be applying sunscreen to her growing limbs as she wriggles with excitement. This summer, those hands will guide her as she learns the age-old tradition of driving the boat, and I’ll be there to capture each moment in my mind. I’ll send a silent wish: Remember those hands, my darling. Both of you.
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In summary, the memories we create with our loved ones—especially those tender moments shared between a father and daughter—are irreplaceable. The hands that guide, nurture, and love will forever leave a lasting imprint on our hearts.
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