As I prepare to send my first child off to college, I find myself reflecting on the many parenting missteps I’ve made over the past 18 years. From the early days of obsessively counting diapers to worrying excessively about grades, I’ve experienced my fair share of parenting doubts. But I’ve come to realize that dwelling on these regrets is a waste of time and energy.
Maya Angelou once said, “I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” And boy, do I know better now! It was ridiculous to stress over diaper counts or to think that a few low grades would determine my child’s future. Here are five common parenting regrets you can stop feeling guilty about right now:
1. Feeding Choices
Whether you breastfed, used formula, or relied on store-bought baby food, what truly matters is that your child was nourished. In the end, they all gravitate toward pizza and fries during their teenage years anyway, so why stress?
2. Screen Time
During my battle with postpartum depression, my older kids spent an entire year watching PBS Kids and Nick Jr. for hours on end. Was it ideal? No. Were they hurt by it? Absolutely not. Sometimes, screens are a lifesaver for overwhelmed parents.
3. Consistent Bedtime Reading
As a librarian, I totally understand the importance of reading to kids every night, but even I couldn’t manage it consistently. It’s okay to prioritize other things. Let your kids see you enjoying books instead of stressing about nightly storytime.
4. Missing Events
With four kids, it’s simply impossible to be present at every sports game or recital. Do they feel neglected? Not at all! Kids appreciate that they aren’t the center of the universe and don’t require constant validation.
5. Work-Life Balance
Whether you work full-time, part-time, or are a stay-at-home parent, what matters is that you’re providing for your family. If the bills are paid and there’s food on the table, you’re doing just fine.
Looking back, my biggest regret is the time I spent doubting my parenting abilities. Now, I’m proud of my child who is ready to take on the world. My hope for them is to live without regrets, knowing they’ve been given the tools to succeed.
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In summary, as parents, we often burden ourselves with guilt over choices that, in hindsight, aren’t worth our energy. Let’s stop dwelling on regrets and embrace the journey of parenthood.
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