When I was a young girl, I found immense joy in rummaging through my mother’s wardrobe, experimenting with her shoes and makeup. The 80s were a colorful time, filled with silky, sparkly, and voluminous clothing—especially those iconic red patent leather heels that I adored. Fashion was my passion; I would eagerly flip through Young Miss magazine, tearing out pages of my favorite styles to decorate my bedroom walls.
In 1985, after saving my allowance for months, I splurged on a pair of pink Converse sneakers. My collection of hair bows and scrunchies was extensive, and I longed to wear pantyhose and blue eyeshadow at just five years old. While my mother didn’t allow me to go that far, she embraced my love for all things feminine, giving me the freedom to express myself.
Fast forward to today, and I find myself in a similar scenario with my daughter, Emma. She mirrors my childhood self in ways that astound me. Shopping trips together are a delight; she often picks out outfits for both of us. I cherish the moments when she poses me for photos on her phone, and the joy I see in her eyes while doing so is priceless. I realize that fashion may seem trivial to some, but for Emma, it ignites her passion, and I feel fortunate to share this connection. It’s my hope that our shared love for fashion will help us maintain our bond as she approaches those challenging teenage years.
Emma is undeniably what many would label a “girly girl.” She adores dressing up, loves to dance, and dreams of becoming a fashion designer, a veterinarian, or even a basketball player one day. I wholeheartedly encourage her interests—not just because she reminds me of my younger self, but because this is authentically who she is. Even at a young age, she gravitated toward Barbies, so of course, I supported that, while also providing her with a basketball hoop and cars to explore her other interests. Her enthusiasm for all things feminine is simply stronger.
If Emma were more of a tomboy, I would support that too. If she preferred to stay home with a book, that would be perfectly fine as well. My main goal is for my children to embrace who they are without shame. I want to nurture their strengths, hobbies, and passions. As they grow and change, I’ll be there to introduce them to new experiences, but I will always champion their true interests—the things that fuel their inner fire. I never want them to feel as though who they are or what they love is inadequate for me or anyone else. It only needs to be enough for them.
I will continuously support Emma in her true self-expression, regardless of how it manifests. I want her to understand that liking fashion, clothes, and appearance doesn’t diminish her strength or intelligence. Empowerment can come in many forms, and this is just one avenue.
Moreover, I will seize her fascination with fashion to teach her the deeper lesson that true beauty comes from within. It’s essential to feel good about ourselves from the inside, regardless of whether we’re draped in a stunning outfit or wearing a simple potato sack. Still, let’s be honest—there’s nothing wrong with rocking a fabulous pair of shoes!
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In summary, I will continue to support my daughter in being her authentic self, celebrating her passions, and teaching her the importance of inner beauty.
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