As I stand in the kitchen, my thighs gently brushing against each other under my skirt, I’m working diligently to stretch out a pre-packaged pizza dough. This dough came from one of those meal delivery services that promise convenience and healthy options—at least until the subscription fees start to pile up because, let’s face it, canceling is easier said than done. The meals are marketed as “healthy” and “vegetarian,” but I’ve learned that these two terms aren’t always interchangeable. As a devoted vegetarian, I strive for a health-conscious lifestyle, yet it’s a constant balancing act.
I genuinely want to lead a healthy lifestyle. I make an effort to eat well, avoiding meat but enjoying my fair share of cheese, brussels sprouts, and spinach. I scrutinize ingredient labels, putting back any bread that lists “enriched” as the first ingredient. Each morning, my day begins with a vibrant green smoothie—whirring in the blender as I add chia seeds and flax. I enjoy the flavor and texture, and I picture those antioxidants working their magic within me.
But yes, I indulge in dessert too. It’s no secret that desserts are generally meat-free, and I have a fondness for them that’s reflected in my physique. You might notice how my thighs touch or the gentle sway of my upper arms, and perhaps you’ll make assumptions based solely on those observations.
If you’re inclined to do that, I won’t judge you.
But can you see the spinach I eat? What about my love for flax seeds? Do you notice the whites of my eyes, the thickness of my hair, or the sturdy strength of my bones? Can you appreciate the healthy pink half-moons of my nails? It’s frustrating that so many equate a woman’s health with her size. Just because I wear a size 12, 14, or 16 does that mean my health is compromised? Many will assess my wellness based on the number on my bathing suit rather than the results of my doctor’s tests. They seem to ignore the science and fixate on societal beauty standards, as if that’s the ultimate measure of worth.
If you’re the type to judge based solely on appearances, then your perspective is one I don’t need in my life.
What truly concerns me is your health, not simply your opinions about how I look in my green bathing suit—my beautiful bathing suit that hugs my body with confidence at the beach.
What You Might Miss
When you look at me, here’s what you might miss:
I’m strong. I can teach a young girl to ride her bike in an afternoon, and I can carry six grocery bags in one trip. My mind, fueled by flax seeds and the occasional chocolate croissant, spins stories about love, kindness, and resilience.
Sometimes, yes, my thighs touch while I knead pizza dough, and I’m often the only person strong enough to open jars of dill pickles. Once, I even carried a bed up two flights of stairs all by myself. These strengths aren’t visible in the soft flesh above my knees, but they matter far more than any superficial judgment.
What truly matters is the moment when a girl at the beach whispered, “I like that fat girl’s bathing suit!” as I strolled past. I swam out far enough to let the waves drown out her words, but I returned to the shore with a smile. “They only make this suit for plus-size women,” I gently replied, noting the blush on her face. Perhaps she didn’t know I could hear her, or maybe she didn’t intend any harm. I offered her kindness instead.
Sometimes, the careful choice of my words, the unique expression of my style, and the growing strength of my character outweigh the size of my hips—if only more people recognized that.
Resources for Further Understanding
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Conclusion
In conclusion, remember, the way we perceive each other should go beyond mere appearances. Let’s celebrate the strength and resilience that lies beneath the surface.
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