There’s a special melody that binds my son and me. It’s a song that brings back memories of a profound time in our lives, a time when he was still nestled safely in my womb. While I always thought it was my song, played solely for my baby while he was forming all his little features, I was in for a surprise.
As a first-time mom, I dove into all the essential reading recommended for expectant mothers. Admittedly, I didn’t get through them all—between catnapping for what felt like 22 hours a day and endless bathroom trips, my time was limited. One book caught my attention, suggesting that playing gentle music for your unborn baby could foster a sense of comfort when they arrived in the world. That’s when I discovered “Washing of the Water” by Peter Gabriel. I did try other tunes, but none resonated like this one, with its soothing lyrics and captivating melody.
Whenever I played our song, the little guy in my belly would pause his acrobatics, as if he was listening intently. As he grew and shifted lower, I’d hold the phone close, hoping he could hear the music well. Sure, it meant he was pressing on my bladder, but the joy of sharing that moment was worth it. The song became our first form of communication, a way to strengthen our bond even before he took his first breath.
However, after my son was born, playing our song didn’t evoke the same magic. At four months old, I tried it again and found myself in tears, longing for the connection we shared in those quiet, intimate moments. The bittersweet memories overshadowed the soothing qualities of the song, so I eventually set it aside, allowing it to fade into the background like our midnight feedings and those tiny size 2 diapers.
Then, one day, a tiny voice from the backseat broke the silence. “Play the river song,” my 2 ½-year-old son requested. I was taken aback and confused; I wondered if he meant another song related to water. My husband suggested a classic, but my son insisted on the “river song.”
In disbelief, I pulled out my phone and played it, asking, “Is this the one you mean?” “Yes!” he exclaimed. It was a moment of pure magic, reminding me of the inexplicable bond we share.
Of course, he is still a toddler, and there are times when his “yes” can mean anything from wanting to play with toy dinosaurs to, well, something more questionable (don’t worry, I keep an eye on him). Whether he truly remembers our song or not, I hope he carries the warmth and love it brought into our lives.
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In summary, music can create lasting connections that transcend time and memory, weaving a thread of love between a mother and her child. While the songs may fade, the feelings they evoke can remain a cherished part of our lives.
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