Updated: April 19, 2023
Originally Published: April 19, 2023
You may have come across various debates on social media regarding motherhood and feminism. While many of the voices in these discussions lack firsthand experience in parenting, I’m here to share my perspective as a proud Supermom.
“I strive to be a mother who fully engages with her children, and that’s perfectly fine.” I manage to nurture my kids and balance work without sacrificing precious moments in their lives. Supermoms like me are capable of juggling it all. We brew coffee, whip up breakfast, dress the kids, take a sip of lukewarm coffee, jump into the shower, and rush out to wipe a child’s bottom—all before chugging down some cold coffee and hastily applying makeup. We dart around the house, wrangle our little ones, load the car, text our partners, and race off to work, all while our husbands enjoy a leisurely cup of coffee (made by us, of course) in peace.
I’m fortunate to have a supportive partner, Dan, who plays a significant role in our household. However, I realized just how much he contributes when he faced an injury that sidelined him for a month. With his Achilles tendon ruptured, I took on all the household responsibilities—cooking, cleaning, laundry, and bedtime routines—after a busy workday and a long commute. The exhaustion was palpable, and it highlighted the vital role he plays in our family dynamic.
Traditionally, the man is seen as the provider and protector, but that’s not always the reality. Many mothers, especially those raising their children alone, embody both roles daily. Take my friend Claire, for instance, who has managed her household solo while her husband serves in the military. She tackles everything from changing lightbulbs to assembling toys on Christmas Eve. Then there’s my colleague, Michelle, who became a mother as a teenager and worked tirelessly to earn her degrees—all while raising her children.
“It’s perfectly fine to enjoy cooking and caring for your family,” I remind myself. There’s no shame in my desire to nourish my loved ones. I have countless examples of incredible Supermoms in my life—my own mother, my mother-in-law, and my friends, who skillfully balance their careers and family obligations. They give their best every day, even when faced with limited choices.
“Such pressure! Why would anyone want to take that on?” you might wonder. For Supermoms, the answer is simple: we want it all. I relish the opportunity to publish my work, take my kids to the park, and share a warm meal with my husband after a long day. I cherish the moments of dancing in the living room and snuggling them at bedtime.
This morning, my 4-year-old asked about leadership roles, and I explained that there can be multiple leaders. My 6-year-old chimed in, “Like you and Dad!” Exactly! I want my boys to understand that men and women are equals, just as I want them to see women as potential leaders in all fields. We’ve come a long way from the past, and I feel grateful that I can make choices that enrich my life and my children’s lives.
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In summary, being a Supermom is not just about handling daily tasks; it’s about making choices, enjoying life, and fostering equality in our families. Let’s embrace the Supermom in all of us.
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