Updated: June 3, 2021
Originally Published: April 9, 2016
Choosing a godparent is a cherished tradition for many families, whether religious or not. This ceremony establishes a lasting connection between your child and someone special in your life. As a lifelong Catholic, I appreciate the meaning behind baptism. However, my motivation was less about faith and more about celebrating my daughters and creating bonds with those I care about—no divine intervention required!
That said, I want to take a moment to call out some of the godparents out there who really drop the ball in their role. After being both a godchild and a godparent (I turned down the offer once), I’ve seen all kinds. Here are six types of godparents who really need their honor revoked:
1. The Invisible Godparent
These individuals are enthusiastic during the ceremony but vanish afterward. They don’t even take the time to send a message on social media. Their indifference to the relationship is palpable, making it feel more like an obligation than a bond.
2. The Overzealous Parent Stand-in
Some godparents mistakenly believe they are the second set of parents. Their constant unsolicited advice can be overwhelming. While they may have good intentions, their boundary issues can really strain the relationship. A little distance could do wonders!
3. The Former Best Friend
Sometimes, a close friendship can fizzle out, leaving behind an awkward godparent situation. Whether due to a falling out or just growing apart, navigating this relationship can be tricky. If tensions are low, you might just have to fake it until you make it.
4. The Perpetually Broke Godparent
No one expects godparents to shower their godchildren with gifts, but constantly complaining about their financial situation can make parents feel guilty. It’s not about the material things; just be present and supportive instead of lamenting your finances.
5. The Spoiling Millionaire
On the flip side, there’s the godparent who showers your child with extravagant gifts, making you look bad in comparison. Their generosity is so over-the-top that it raises eyebrows and creates unrealistic expectations. Your child might start envisioning a life where they live with their “never-say-no” godparent—yikes!
6. The Preachy Godparent
While the role of godparent often comes with a spiritual aspect, it’s best to refrain from lecturing your child about religion. The primary responsibility of a godparent is to provide support and encouragement, not to take over your role as a parent in religious teachings.
Unfortunately, you can’t just re-baptize your child or strip a godparent of their title. Your best bet? Surround your kids with loving, supportive adults who genuinely care, whether they’re official godparents or not. For insightful tips on navigating these relationships, check out this post on Cervical Insemination.
At the end of the day, while good godparents can be a blessing, they aren’t essential. People change, and so do relationships. Embrace your community and surround your children with kind, nurturing influences.
So do my kids have great godparents? Only time will tell, but I’m sure they’ll be alright regardless.
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