It can be draining. It’s a mental marathon that sometimes leaves me feeling like I need a protective layer of Teflon around my emotions. Often, it leads to me and everyone around me feeling cranky, irritable, and defensive. But let’s be real: being the tough mom is not my favorite role, nor is it an easy one. However, raising kids who won’t turn into self-centered adults takes real grit, a strong mindset, and a hefty dose of discipline. So, bring it on, kids. Bring your sass, your meltdowns, your backtalk, your laziness, and all the other nonsense. I’m ready to tackle this tough parenting journey with all the love in the world.
1. I’m Not Your Buddy. Not Even Close.
When your kids are little, it’s easy to maintain those boundaries, but as they hit the tween and teenage years, the urge to become their “friend” can be strong. Resist that temptation. You’re the adult here, equipped with life experience and wisdom; you don’t need a 14-year-old bestie.
2. My Goal is Not to Be Cool, but to Raise Exceptional Kids.
And by “exceptional,” I mean kind, respectful, and courteous. A mom who is overly concerned about being liked won’t teach her kids the importance of these values. If you don’t like my style? I’m perfectly fine with that. One day, you’ll appreciate my approach.
3. Nagging Actually Works. Science Says So.
There’s that study that confirmed nagging mothers tend to raise successful daughters. We all know the drill—asking our kids to clean their rooms and finish homework for the umpteenth time.
4. I Married a Fun Dad.
Yes, he’s the superhero in our household. When he comes home, it’s like the kids are watching their favorite athlete walk into a championship game. This means he doesn’t want to take on the “mean” role, and I happily fill that gap. Honestly, I’m better at it anyway (thanks to a little PMS).
5. Tough Love Just Works.
I’ve attempted the gentle approach and read all the positive parenting theories, but alas, they didn’t resonate with my four energetic boys. What did work? A penetrating stare that could silence even the most rambunctious toddler. Want to see your teenager listen? Trust me, a gentle emotional bond with a 15-year-old is nonexistent, but an intense glare gets results.
6. It Takes a Village, but Not When Everyone’s Nice.
Before you head to the playground, there should be a contract mandating that if you see a kid acting out, you have the right to speak up. If that child happens to be yours, let another tough mom step in. I’d sign that contract faster than you can say “swing set.” I love my community, but I need them to be on the same parenting wavelength as me.
7. Kids Can Drain Your Niceness—Let Them.
It’s admirable to want to be kind, but kids can sense that and will exploit it, leaving you feeling drained and taken advantage of. The good news is, this usually happens only once early in your parenting journey. Once you let go of the “nice mom” persona, the real parenting begins.
8. I Won’t Raise Manipulators.
Especially since I’m raising young men, it’s crucial they understand that I can’t be fooled just because I’m their mom. I refuse to be seen as a pushover because I’m a woman—absolutely not.
9. Want to Be Cool? Just Wait Until You’re a Grandparent.
Eventually, all that tough love fades as your kids grow and leave home. Then you can recharge your nice side, just in time to spoil your grandkids. After all, we know the saying: “If Mom says no, ask Grandma.” I can’t wait to be the “yes” lady!
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In summary, being the tough mom isn’t easy, but it’s necessary. The goal is to raise respectful, kind, and responsible adults, and that means sometimes taking on the role of the “mean mom.” And who knows? One day, my kids may just thank me for it.
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