When I was growing up, my household was filled with brothers, which meant plenty of roughhousing—think black eyes, broken windows, and a garage bursting with sports gear. So, when I first became a dad, I felt a sense of comfort when my firstborn was a boy. It was familiar territory, and I thought my experience with raising boys would come in handy.
However, everything changed with the arrival of my daughter. I’ll admit, I was a bit intimidated. Caring for a girl felt like unexplored territory, and I laugh now at my fears. The reality is, nurturing an infant—regardless of gender—feels pretty much the same. My love for them was equal, even if diaper changes required slightly different techniques. I sang the same lullabies, comforted their cries, and tucked them in with the same affection.
Once I transitioned to being a stay-at-home dad, I began to realize the significant impact my presence would have on my daughters’ futures. I often pondered how witnessing their mother leave for work each day would shape their ambitions and how my role at home might influence their perspectives on gender roles.
It’s troubling to see dads donning shirts that establish strict dating rules for their daughters or posting pictures threatening future boyfriends with violence. While I fully support the idea of protecting my kids, these tactics do nothing to foster respect or understanding. Instead of instilling fear, let’s teach young men what true respect and love look like. Our daughters aren’t trophies to be guarded; they’re precious individuals deserving of admiration and respect.
I recently saw a soon-to-be dad joking that he hoped his baby girl would be born unattractive. Joking or not, this mindset reflects a troubling notion—that women aren’t safe because men only have one thing on their minds. This is precisely why as fathers, we need to prepare our daughters for the world. Here’s a reality check: isolating your daughter won’t serve her well. If you’re a new dad, do yourself a favor and watch the movie Tangled. Your daughter will be beautiful in her own way, and you’ll see glimpses of yourself or your partner in her smile.
She’ll be curious, eager to explore the world, and you’ll want to protect her. But more importantly, you’ll want to witness her journey. Raising a daughter is nothing short of enchanting. She’ll grow from the tiny bundle you once cradled into a teenager asking for the car keys. Don’t shelter her from life; instead, empower her.
Both of my daughters are stunning, intelligent, and determined—traits I recognize from their mother, for whom I chose to date because of her strength. Instead of fearing the attention they may attract, let’s celebrate it.
I understand the fear that comes with parenthood. It’s natural to feel that the world is a dangerous place. However, shielding them from adversity only heightens their curiosity about what lies beyond their immediate experience. Rather than resorting to threats, let’s focus on empowerment. Equip your daughters with the skills they need to thrive. Remember, no firearm can protect them like their own intellect, humor, and creativity can.
Encourage them to be strong, inquisitive, and independent. Support them as they stumble and cheer them on as they rise. In those early days, you might not even realize you’re laying the groundwork. Your daughter will want to explore, and you’ll have to resist the urge to do everything for her. One day, she’ll reach for a block, and you’ll want to hand it to her, but instead, let her struggle a bit. When she finally gets it, and her eyes light up with triumph, you’ll think, “Everything about you is beautiful,” and she’ll beam back at you, saying, “Thanks, Dad.”
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