“How old is your little one?” a woman asked, barely older than me, as I tossed a few bars of chocolate into my cart—two of which were earmarked as my reward for finally getting the baby to sleep that afternoon.
“Almost 3 months,” I replied, squinting against the glaring lights while hastily rubbing my eyes, suddenly aware that I hadn’t even glanced in the mirror before running out the door—again. It wasn’t until someone engaged me in conversation that I realized in my frantic rush to prep the baby, I’d completely forgotten to check my own appearance.
The woman nodded knowingly and said, “Ah, you’re still in the 100 Days of Darkness,” before commenting on how adorable my baby was.
The phrase “One Hundred Days of Darkness” has lingered in my mind ever since. I’ve heard various expressions to describe life with a newborn. My mother asked me if I’d managed to come out of “the fog” yet. A month later, an enthusiastic cashier, upon learning my baby was four months old, exclaimed, “What a great age! He’s finally become human now.” Both observations aptly capture the chaos of early motherhood, but “100 Days of Darkness”? That one nails it perfectly, as it encompasses everything:
- The overwhelming fear of being solely responsible for this tiny human.
- The wild rollercoaster of hormones, filled with an array of emotions—anxiety, guilt, sadness, joy, pride, and even rage—often swapping one for another in mere seconds.
- The relentless sleep deprivation that makes you question how you ever complained about tiredness before.
- The dramatic shifts in your relationship. In fact, I almost wrote “the seismic sh*t in your relationship” instead of “shift,” which also accurately describes our struggles during those first 100 days. Communicating without raising our voices over a wailing baby became an intricate and often dark adventure.
- The sudden loneliness that can strike at any moment, not just during those quiet hours in the middle of the night with a colicky infant.
- Endless feeding hours and breastfeeding challenges that leave you wondering what just happened.
- The unexpected boredom that sneaks up on you, surprising you with its presence.
- The madness of diaper blowouts and constant crying, leaving you unable to eat, sleep, or even shower. You had heard the stories before giving birth, but nothing prepared you for reality.
- The realization that your life has irrevocably changed, and now you must navigate how you fit into this new world. If you can’t even take a shower or enjoy a sandwich, how will you manage to see friends, exercise, read, or chase your dreams of becoming the next Picasso?
How did we survive those early months with a new baby? Although it’s all a blur now, I think we got through it by being fueled by baby smiles and giggles, countless cups of coffee, binge-watching every comedy on Netflix, cherishing those fleeting perfect moments, and figuring out when to tackle issues head-on or just walk away. Apologies, appreciation, and acceptance flowed amidst the emotional upheaval. And most importantly, we tried to find humor in it all.
It’s crucial to understand that these challenges don’t just vanish once you hit day 101, so don’t start a countdown. However, the cliché holds some truth: it does become easier. The good days start to outnumber the bad. Your baby eventually stops crying and starts smiling, and those smiles will melt your heart and expand it in ways you never thought possible. The fear lessens, feeding becomes more manageable, and your relationship begins to normalize—well, in a new way. Those dark days gradually fade into brightness, sometimes so bright that you find yourself contemplating, “Should we consider another?”
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In summary, while the first few months with a newborn can feel like a disorienting journey through darkness, the light eventually breaks through, bringing with it joy, laughs, and the chance to embrace a new version of normal.
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