Dear Cousin,
I just received the wonderful news that you’re expecting a baby girl! Your mom, my aunt, couldn’t contain her excitement when she shared it with me. Instantly, I was transported back to those carefree days on the beach, when we were just 3 and 4 years old. I can picture us lying on our bellies, resting our heads on our hands, your golden hair contrasting beautifully with my dark locks, both of us grinning from ear to ear. Those were such joyful moments.
Time has flown since then, and our lives have taken us down different paths—me in the countryside and you in a bustling city suburb. Despite our mothers’ best efforts to keep us close, distance often creates a gap. Although we may not be those little girls in the sand anymore, I still hold onto those memories dearly. Learning about your pregnancy stirred up my protective instincts as your older cousin.
You are about to embark on one of life’s most challenging yet rewarding journeys: motherhood. I have no doubt you’ll be an amazing mom. Here are some things I wish I had known during my own pregnancy journey:
- Savor Your Last Moments of Freedom
While you will certainly find time for yourself again, it won’t quite be the same. Once your baby arrives, the silence you once cherished might feel overwhelming. So indulge in movies, dive into books, and take those long, relaxing baths while you can. These moments will be precious once your little one is here. - Spend Quality Time With Your Partner Pre-Baby
The arrival of a baby can shift your relationship dynamics. Even if your partner is right there beside you, it’s easy to feel distant. Take time now to reconnect and prepare for your new roles as parents. Open communication will be key in navigating this change together. - Avoid Overloading on Parenting Literature
As my due date approached, I found myself buried in parenting books, leading to information overload. My doctor even advised me to take a break from reading! If you enjoy learning from books, do so, but remember that you will find your own parenting style. It’s okay to not have all the answers right away. - Create a Birth Plan, but Stay Open to Change
Having a vision for your birth experience is important, but flexibility is crucial. Plans can change unexpectedly, and being too attached to them can lead to guilt if things don’t go as intended. Some friends have shared their struggles with this, so remember: you’re not alone in navigating the unexpected. - Pack a Thoughtful Hospital Bag
Everyone tells you to prepare a hospital bag, but it’s easy to focus more on the baby’s needs than your own. Include cozy socks, your favorite snacks, and essentials like maxi-pads. A comfy robe and nursing tank can make a world of difference. And don’t stress about fitting into pre-pregnancy clothes right away—embrace those maternity pants. - Trust Yourself to Find Your Own Path
You’ll receive a flood of advice from well-meaning friends and family, but at the end of the day, you will carve your own path. What works for me or anyone else may not suit you and your baby. Trust your instincts; you’ll figure it out, just as we all do. And remember, I’m here for you every step of the way.
I’m genuinely thrilled for you as you step into motherhood, and I can’t wait to see our little girls grow up together. I still cherish that beach photo of us, and I dream of recreating it with our daughters. Your little one and my youngest will be just two years apart—almost the same distance we had. Let’s make that happen!
Wishing you all the best as you embark on this incredible journey. I am eager to meet your sweet baby!
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