On Christmas morning, we nestled together in my bed, blankets piled high, as my little boy, Alex, enjoyed his cartoons on an iPad while I indulged in a captivating book. He was nearing three years old, and this Christmas felt significant—one he might actually remember. I told myself that the holidays didn’t matter much to me, that I didn’t need to make a grand celebration, nor did I want to buy into the commercial frenzy that often overshadows the true essence of the season. I rationalized a lot of things, but deep down, I was evading a crucial truth.
Becoming a single mom was never part of my plan. I’ve always been resilient, and the thought of divorce seemed unimaginable. I believed I could make it work, no matter the challenges or discomforts. But eventually, it became clear that leaving was the healthiest choice for both me and Alex. I found myself stepping out the door, bags in hand, with my sandy-haired toddler clinging tightly to my neck, exactly where he belonged.
In those early months, I did what any devoted mother would—I dedicated hours each night to help him drift into sleep. As I lay beside him, I marveled at the gentle rise and fall of his chest, the soft glow of the hallway light illuminating his delicate eyelashes. Each night, I fell in love with him all over again. I felt an immense pride in raising such a wonderful little boy and a joy in knowing he was entirely mine. Yet, alongside that love, a wave of guilt would wash over me.
I wished I could provide more for him. More financial stability, nicer things, and even a complete family. I felt inadequate, believing that my singular presence wasn’t enough.
Having grown up in a traditional family—my parents still together and three siblings by my side—I often thought about what “normal” looked like. We faced our share of struggles, yet I was shielded from the financial worries that plagued my parents. Our family was intact, albeit imperfect. Friends with divorced parents would often avoid discussing their home lives, and I sensed a lingering feeling of brokenness in families that didn’t mirror mine.
Every parent aims to offer the best for their child—good health, happiness, and stability. But what happens when the one thing you fear you can’t provide is a healthy family environment? What if the path to a nurturing home means stepping away from the traditional model? I always believed I could create a loving home for Alex, yet the shame of not living up to societal norms loomed large every time I reflected on our situation.
The day after Christmas, while running errands alone with Alex, a revelation struck me. I had been avoiding celebrations because it felt incomplete with just the two of us. Confronting this truth, I realized I was the one imposing stigma on our family structure. I had allowed guilt to overshadow the beautiful bond we shared. I had mistakenly believed that our family of two—a devoted mother and her son—wasn’t enough.
As these thoughts unraveled, I recognized their absurdity. A family of two is still a family, and a single mom and her child share a bond just as profound as any other. Love defines a family, not the number of members. Togetherness, not merely the presence of two married parents, creates a family. Alex and I share that love, that connection, and our little world is filled with togetherness.
I just needed to redefine what family truly meant. Alex and I are a family, and that’s enough.
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In summary, while I once struggled with the idea of not fitting into a traditional family mold, I’ve come to understand that love and connection are what truly matter. My son and I are enough, and our family of two is a beautiful thing.
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